Concerned for baby next door idk what to do

[HoneyBunnii]

Hi everyone..
As the title suggests, i am concerned for the baby next door and unsure what to do.

Since we moved here (around 3 years ago) the couple next door would argue and yell at each other at the top of their voice.
The father would yell all sorts of foul stuff to his young kids and i could hear it through the walls (they were around 9 or 10 year olds back then) it was basically the type of swearing that a normal parent would not want their young kids to hear or even use.

I was concerned over this but didnt do anything as i could also hear the kids being bratty and shouting insults back at their dad so i thought maybe its just one of those families..

But early this year they had a baby and it must be around 9 months old now and every day i can hear the parents yelling at each other at the top of their voices angrily and the baby crying in the background..

I hear the doors slamming and things being thrown around angrily..

I feel so bad for the baby because i feel like thats the only thing it hears all day, just yelling.

The other night after a massive argument i could hear the woman sobbing after the man was yelling how she had a drinking problem and that he is a shit dad etc.

It upsets me because its so loud and i have a toddler at home as well and i dont like him having to hear all this.. i try to turn the volume up on the tv so to mute the arguments out but then sometimes they are arguing outside their house and locking each other out etc. so having to hear it outside my window..

I think they had a massive argument now too and someone just left yelling angrily.

Idk if i should ignore all this or tell someone.
Im afraid that out of a fit of rage one of them is going to hurt the baby and i dont want to feel guilty if anything like that happens..

What would you do if you were in my situation??

Report your concerns to child services

Phone the police!
Report to the local mash.
But for God's sake. Do something

You need to speak to social services.

Yes. Call the police next time they do this. Every time in fact.

I mean don’t wait til next time. If they’ve been arguing now do it now.

You can also report to the NSPCC if you feel more comfortable doing that than contacting social services. They will pass the report on your behalf or tell you what to do next.

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/reporting-abuse/report/

I reported my neighbours through NSPCC via email anonymously. They now seem to have what appears to be a regular weekly support worker turn up. Doesn't stop it continuing but I feel better that I flagged it after 6 years. Part of my rationale was that I was at home one day on my maternity leave and had to leave my own home for the afternoon because what I heard upset me so much. I reported that day.

Report to Social Services and hope that the family is given some real help to cope better - parenting classes, budgeting help, alcoholic referral or anger management help etc.

The best outcome would be if the family could live in more harmony and less stress.

Fwiw I don’t really think the situation is worse with the baby vs. with the other children, but I agree this is unacceptable.

Thanks everyone for your advice, i will probably contact NSPCC and report it to them first thing in the morning, i was just worried because the couple would suspect me because i dont think the neighbours on the other side of their house have ever reported them.. but then i cant let that stop me from making an effort to stop this kid from facing misery every day.

I reported my neighbour years ago. She used to lock her 6 year old in the bathroom and go out leaving him crying.

She never realised it was me.

Report this asap to your local Child Protection Team, this sounds like it’s escalating and a baby is very vulnerable.
Don’t give it another thought just act, let professionals make a professional decision on what course of action if any is required, they will be able to access far more information than you to get a better picture. Not doing anything has far more potential consequences than raising awareness.

@Menopausalaffectedmum i did and they asked for all the information and then in the end they said they didnt recognise the details i had given and that if i manage to get the names of the people living next door then i should contact them again. This was nspcc that i contacted.. but so far i havent heard the massive arguments since then so i have left it for now

If it happens again you could always call the police, that will automatically trigger a social work visit as there are children in the house.
hopefully it will all settle down

Please report it. You can speak to NSPCC if you need to.

@Italiangreyhound i did report it at that time and they fobbed me off but i now have the number for another service that deals with child neglect etc. which is local (one of my friends gave this to me after i told her what happened) so if anything kicks off now i will be using that number straight away. I am disappointed with the way nspcc handled everything so far.

@HoneyBunnii sorry to hear that.