Friendship problems

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Hi there
i just wanted some advice/reassurance as noticing my 6 year old DD is finding her friendship with her best friend since Reception has changed. Another girl has come into the mix and getting very attached to her best friend, so my daughter is being pushed out.
I find this frustrating as over the past 2 years they’ve happily done a lot together and still get on well, but I can see the issues this girl (who was previously good friends with another girl, that friendship appears to have drifted a bit hence why she’s latching on to someone else).
My DD tells me they often just want to play together so she has found another friend to play with having been told I don’t want to play that game/have play dates with you, despite previously getting on fine. The mother of this child is very keen to build this friendship and now getting her child to join the same weekend club - I’m all for widening your social circle but not at the expense of pushing others out (like my DD). I’m also trying to teach my DD to be inclusive and share but when she is being treated this way surely questions that?
I appreciate my DD isn’t perfect by any means and friendships at this age are a minefield. My other half just says don’t worry about it, could all change next week but I had a terrible nights sleep worrying about my DD and am currently pregnant so really don’t need this right now. Should I speak to the mother of this child/my DD’s teacher about this? Any advice appreciated, thank you.

At this age friendships change daily, I get the worry I really do but you'll drive yourself mad if you think too deeply about it. Encourage your DD to play with others, friendships change and that's okay, we need to teach our children resilience and make connections with a variety of people.

I’m afraid this is entirely normal. You can’t do much about it but encourage your child to meet lots of new people. Having one best friend is quite narrow and schools don’t massively encourage it these days. You could mention to the teacher so they help encourage other little groups forming too. Also do clubs out of school so your child doesn’t have to rely only on school friends for company

Friendships will come and go. I always tell DD to have a wide circle of friends, never ever latch on to one. There is literally nothing you can do imo to prevent or stop friendships or closer friendships forming. Someone almost always gets pushed out at some point.

I had a close friend in primary- junior and then high school. I was very shy, she was my best friend, we did everything together- right up until she emigrated to Spain! Which left me very alone over one summer- luckily picked up with a nice group when I returned to school.

It isn’t nice seeing your child left out, but your DH is right it could all change next week.

No I wouldn’t speak to the teacher or the parent… what on earth would you say. Encourage your DD to make lots of friends!

Thank you for your replies. It’s good to know it’s totally normal for her age and encouraging a wide circle of friends is certainly a good idea.