Reporting photos of my child on facebook

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Not sure if this is the right topic to post in but I'm hoping to find other people may have been in the same situation!
Despite being a crappy mother in law, mother, and grandmother, my MIL uses photos of my daughter that my partner and I have taken and uploads them to facebook - seemingly to give off the vibe of being a loving grandmother lol. She knows my partner and I feel a little uncomfortable about this, especially since we don't post these photos anyway; they're just pictures we've ocassionally put in the family group chat.

I decided to report her latest profile picture (of my daughter) under the category of 'violating the privacy of my child' and it got taken down pretty quickly. I really hate drama and am now stressing out that she may know I reported it, since I had to include my name in the report.
Does anyone have experience of this, and do you know if she'll have been notified that I reported her? Also can someone please reassure me that I've done the right thing, because I feel like I have but I don't know how I'll defend myself if MIL kicks off😭

Yes you’ve done the right thing for your child and their privacy and safety. Now stop putting photos of them in the group chat so she can’t do again .

if your MIL kicks off then don’t get involved in any way - let your Dh deal with it. His mother , his problem.

Thank you!❤️ We stopped putting them in the chat a couple months ago so fingers crossed it won't happen again!

You say she knows you’re “a little uncomfortable”? Have you or your partner explicitly explained you don’t want pictures shared publicly and asked her not to do so?
If not then that’s the first stage. If you have then don’t share pics in future.

You need to cut off her source of these photos. I had a relative like this and we ended up having to exclude her from things after she scraped low res photos of my child off the family Whatsapp and put them into a self-published picture book which she listed on Amazon! We were expected to be so delighted but I was just horrified that anyone would be such a dense CF!

If you took the photo you hold the copyright and even if you've shared it somewhere, it doesn't give other people the right to redistribute your pictures publicly.

My partner has spoken to her twice but I havent said anything myself.. I think that's why I'm worried as I put the report under my own name. But yes, no more sharing photos lol.

@SisterMichaelsHabit jesus christ! I can't believe someone would do this! Or want to buy the book!😭

This isnt something I’d be concerned over TBH - especially as you’ve actually distributed those images online in the first place. I believe you can delete all media from the What’s App group that you’ve put on yourself if you're so inclined.

We had similar with a distant relative putting images into a crappy book that he gave out for Christmas. Think we were meant to be pleased, just found it creepy tbh. You have to cut their sources off. I don’t send photos to MIL now as I think she was sending some of them on.

It doesn’t matter if the report was in your name. Let him deal with it.

IME 95% of MIL problems can be resolved by making / letting your husband deal with it.

She Comes to your house and criticised you or your parenting ? make sure she only comes when he is in to host her.

She calls you up to complain that you are not doing X? Don’t answer the call, let him do it.

She is rude to you when you take your children to visit her ? Let your DH take the children and you do something else. Let him make the excuses.

Most of the time men are quite happy to let their DW/ DP take the flak while they wring their hands and say “ I don’t want to upset Mummy, I wish everyone could just get on “.

As soon as you make it THEIR problem and not yours, usually they sort it .