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FASD and the signs

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ThisIsMeD · 14/10/2023 00:31

Hey!

It sucks that’s I’m even posting this.
I had a horrible binge session during my pregnancy - third tri - and I’ve been killing myself since. Before that, I’d had maybe two glasses of wine - and after that, nothing. Reason for the binge was the complete end of my relationship: I’m talking drunk - it was not just one or two drinks. Red wine.

im now really really scared about that one moment of awful weakness. All I can do is look at his lips and philtrum. It seems flat and I am so ashamed to ask my doc about it (aim not in the us or uk)

I know it’s a stupid question but is the philtrum visible to you?

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ThisIsMeD · 14/10/2023 00:32

His ears are fin. His eyes “seem” fine. He is now 15 weeks old: When is it possible to get a diagnosis?

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Cocoalover · 14/10/2023 01:09

Can't really tell in that picture, but surely he would have other signs other than his lip?

Cocoalover · 14/10/2023 01:12

Unless you were binge drinking every weekend or drinking a few glasses of wine every day, then your baby will be fine x

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Hermittrismegistus · 14/10/2023 01:24

FAS doesn't happen because of one binge session during the third trimester.

Lonesomefetter · 14/10/2023 01:44

I think by the third trimester the facial features would already be formed. I don't think that one session could cause fasd. Maybe ask the hv or doctor about it though, I know it's hard.

Lonesomefetter · 14/10/2023 01:46

Fwiw I don't think his philtrum looks flat.

PosterBoy · 14/10/2023 01:47

Philtrum clearly visible.

Drinking as a one off in third trimester wouldn't cause that anyway

LaurieStrode · 14/10/2023 02:04

He will be fine.

My friend's husband is a paeditrician and he was fine with her drinking as much as she wanted in third tri. That daughter is in medical school herself now.

EliflurtleTripanInfinite · 14/10/2023 02:07

I thinks it's highly unlikely and I understand why everyone is trying to reassure you, but you really need to talk to your doctor about this. The truth is FASD is not well understood and the amount of alcohol that causes FASD can vary a lot Given early intervention is important in the treatment of FASD I really think you need to see your doctor. I expect they will tell you everything is fine and not to worry and they will put your mind to rest on this, but no one on here can answer that for you.

BabyFireflyx · 14/10/2023 02:45

Yes I can see the philtrum. It's easily visible.
A binge in the third trimester obviously isn't ideal but there's far, far worse that you could have done. An isolated incident when baby was already very developed is so unlikely to have caused any problems. One night is not equivalent to sustained alcohol abuse during pregnancy. It didn’t impact birth, or baby's health at birth did it? Forgive yourself. Being a mum to a very young child is hard enough, don't let the intrusive thoughts take hold as well.

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ThisIsMeD · 15/10/2023 10:14

Oh man. Thank you for these and other responses

ita crazy how these thoughts creep up. Especially r when it’s you and the baby all day. And you wonder if you hurt him.

For anyone asking, I’m in a country where asking that type of question is completely out of the ordinary however I will.

thank goodness you u to all

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