ds 2.8 ptty training for a week, but has at least 4 accidents a day....

[desperatelyseekingsleep]

..he wanted to start potty training about a week ago, but is still having lots of accidents every day and we're getting lots of stroppy nos when I ask if he wants to go on the potty. He's never asked to go and do a wee-wee on the potty, only ever does it if he's reminded (and in the right mood!). Have I rushed him into it, or is this normal? I don't feel like he's progressing at all at the moment.

Then stop. He'll come to is in his own time. Have another go in the summer when it's all a bit easier with fewer clothes and warm days!

i'd give both of you a break for a short time..
ds took ages to get it...after his third birthday it just all happened, clicked
i tried numerous times before and the staying in and cleaning up was mind numbing

give it a go in a wee while (excuse the pun)!

Do you think if we take a break from it it will make it harder to start up again - eg if he has bad memories of it or feels he's failed? Also how many accidents a day is normal in the first few weeks? He's having at least 3-4 a day.

HAve abreak from it. Wait til summer, it is easier as they are running around outside and stuff, lighter clothes that are easier to get down.

I still have to remind DD who is 3.2- she would hold in for hours and as a result occasionally has a tiny leak when she does go.

When you do go back to it, try to make it a routine - i.e. before snack you do a wee and wash your hands - ditto, before going out, lunch, nap etc. You go too, to show that it is normal to go just in case.

No point getting either of your stressed - and a break shouldn't give him bad memories or a feeling of failure (unless you present it to him as a failure). It will come, be confident of that and he will be too.

i would take abreak
look upon it as stabbing in the dark to find the right time for his body and mind to get it in sync..
i stressed way too much, now he is in there wants privacy and can do it all himself..

he is talking about it which is great, try in a few weeks, when you are both chilled about it all..new reward chart etc..

THink I will have to give it a break - he just came back from playgroup today and the leader had a quiet word to say he was being totally uncooperative about going to the potty I'm having visions of being called in to see the head teacher ina few years time...He's just being SO stubborn about it that it's making me feel incredibly frustrated. I think the only thing to do is take all your advice and give it a break for a month or so. I'm just worried that he'll NEVER be ready - he's going to be 3 in June!

He'll be ready at somepoint desperatelyseeking. Think about it, there aren't many adults who wear nappies now are there? Give him time. If his brain isn't yet connected to the bodily function urges, you would be flogging a dead horse.

Honestly, wait til summer when it is much easier to handle...

DD has been potty training since NY Day and continues to have several (up to 5) accidents a day, especially if we go out. She is 3 in 2weeks so I don't want to give up (also she would hate to go back to nappies). I just make sure we have lots of spare bottoms.

We only cracked potty training a couple of weeks ago with Ellie (also three in June) but I got loads of pressure from the extended sibling in laws who all had babies around the same time and have been competing about it since about last summer!!! Ellie wasn't remotely interested in it at that point (far more interesting things to do I think )so i just ignored it till she did seem ready then took a week off work. She's still having occasional accidents if she's concentrating but we're pretty much there in the daytime so I think the secret probably is to remain relaxed about it - easier said than done I know!!! We did have an amusing moment in Tesco the other day though when we bumped into one of said sibling-in-laws (whose child has allegedly been completely dry since last August) with a trolley full of nappies. Red faces there then!! The moral being I think not to believe all of what other people may be telling you about it going swimmingly!!! It may not all be as it seems.

OK so I've stopped the potty training, so does that mean that I don't mention potties at all, or do I still leave said item in strategic places in case he wants to give it another go?

My son is exactly the same age as yours dss and sounds exactly the same. When I talk about the potty he ignores me and seems to get embarrassed about it !! I started potty training about six weeks ago and he still has occassional daily accidents but doesn't really seem to care when he does which I think is a bit strange! I really like PP's advice, I think I will try that myself but at the end of the day boys do tend to be later than girls at potty training so I am just trying to take it my stride even though I am doing about 17 loads of washing a day !!!

hi, just another one saying to wait. I thought my dd was ready and every day i was changing her 3 or 4 times like you. I struggled for 6 weeks until i gave up and decided to wait until the summer. This summer (wish me luck!!) we are much less stressed at the moment!