Is he in the wrong here?

[User7477]

So my 2 sons 6 and 8 stay with there day nearly every weekend, where as weekend just gone they wanted to stay home so didn't see him, today we had a meeting at the school for my son (8) who has SEMH difficulties, he's doing good.. this was at 2 o'clock it finished at around 2:35 there dad went home didn't wait around for them to come out of school... (they have a baby sister at there dads who is around 6 months old) anyway, he's phoned about 5 o'clock said to put the boys on the phone said hello and then said "when are you going to ask to come and see me and * (there sister)" ... guilt tripping them like shouldn't it be the other way around? He gets annoyed because the boys don't ask to go there but should they? Shouldn't he be the one asking them to go? And spending time with them, I just think it's out of order or am I over thinking it??

At 6 and 8 they don't get to decide they are staying home imo. You should be encouraging them to go see df and new dsis...

They go almost every weekend I never stop them from going and always persuade them to go if they say they don't want too, my 8 year old said he wanted to stay at home for one weekend as they don't actually get a chance to have a chilled day at home when they are at school all week and at there dads of a weekend.

My point is that he said that on the phone about when are you going to ask to come and see me and your sister, why should it be them asking? Why doesn't he offer more for them to go round and spend time with there sister? A few times my son had said can I go and stay with dad and I have phoned his dad and took him there, but they are just happy at home and don't think to ask much about going there but should they? Or should he phone and offer more? Is what I'm saying