Advice needed over recent school move

[Christmasshopping1]

Feeling awful but moved my y3 dd 1 week after the new term started so this is her 4th week at new school I think.
Now she's asking to move back to old school as she misses her friends & teachers.
She says this school is more strict and the work is harder.

Would it be possible/ ridiculous to move her back?
Life would be a bit harder as its not walking distance the old school.
I feel sick with anxiety.

What was your reason for moving her?

•House move,
•due baby in few weeks so would struggle getting to old one/ baby will be going closer school nursery
•new 1 closer to home ie walking distance
•older dd struggled having all her friends live near the old school esp during summer as they all could play out & meet up easily all living near each other & school. Didn't want the same for 2nd dd.
@TellerTuesday

So you made the desicion to move schools, based on a babies needs in 4 years time, as it sound like most of your reasons are based on the new child's potential needs? School nursery and potential school experience? You took your eldest away from her friends, because it will make things easier in 3-4 yrs for you? I'd say your eldest is probably feeling a bit marginalised in general by the baby if their future needs are trumping her current ones.....

I think you probably rushed the decision to move her. It sounds purely based on your new child.
I wouldn't move her again, I'd just suck it up..too disruptive

It’s perfectly normal to move schools to one within walking distance after a house move. That was a horrible post, @SD1978 .

@Christmasshopping1 it’s early days. Maybe reassure her if she is still unsettled after Christmas you can think of moving then. I dare say she’ll have settled by then.

Thank you @Summermeadowflowers I feel like crying now after reading that other response.

MN is being particularly unpleasant to anyone pregnant or with a new baby who has an older child at the moment. I was really upset by a thread the other day. Don’t worry.

I would give it some more time OP, its only been a week.
You can review again by the end of the year. I expect she'll make a circle of friends by then. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for.

4 weeks even not 1 week. Currently sleep deprived!😅

I would talk to the school. Ask them to assign her a buddy. Encourage her to arrange some play dates.

They are good reasons for moving her. Stick with it. Could you try and arrange opportunities for her to make friends at her new school? Hard with a new baby but if you can find a couple of hours to have children round it might help

And I agree with another poster - speak to the school and see what they can do to help her settle in

@Christmasshopping1 - I'm sorry, it came out blunter than I'd intended, and it's always hard when you're not sure what's best to do- the tone seemed more concerned with the babies experience, although as others have said- she will adapt to the new school, because kids always do. It just read as most of your points were more in regards to the babies future experiences being easier, however Im sure you're trying to make it easier for your eldest daughter too.

Thanks all.

They have buddied her up with another new child who moved the week before her just as the new term started.

She does seem happy when I collect, she's come out with certificates twice. And mentions friends who she's played with.

She does clubs after school 3 nights a week and some children from old class go and its usually after this that she mentions missing old school.

She did have some fall outs in old school I must add. On occasion where she has been the mean one and parents have approached me so I'm hoping this doesn't happen in new place. I think she was copying some unfavorable behaviour.

I was in a very similar predicament this time last year,stuck it out and now everything is much better,the old school is never mentioned these days 😃

Thanks all for advice.
I had a chat with dd last night as she asked me again about going back to old school.
She's told me there's a bully in her new class who has done a few mean things to her
• pushed into her hurting her and said well you should have moved
•tripped her up outside
•shouted at her
•ragged a book out of her hands when collecting them in
•keeps rolling her eyes at her when she talks

I am hoping to speak to teacher either later at pick up or tomorrow.
I've never had to deal with anything like this in previous school. I guess it's swings & roundabouts.

You're doing all you can OP. Remember that x

@Christmasshopping1 you made decisions that were to benefit both her and your family. She needs to stay where she is for a bit, 4 weeks is nothing to settle into a new school. She is 7 she doesn't understand the decisions adults make re houses and school runs.

Re the bully, definitely talk to the teacher today at the end of the day if you can. As a person who used to take information at the classroom door I would prepare a note so that it lists what you said above. Great for a teacher to refer back to when talking to the child about their behaviour although any decent teacher would be taking notes as you talk.

School should come down on this hard and any issues moving forward add to that list with a date next to it so you can go back in if it isn't resolved.

Thank you both @Sharletonz. @CloudWhisperer much appreciated