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First time mum, do I risk it?!

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Elbee87 · 10/10/2023 17:01

Hey ladies, I’m just looking for a bit of advice! I’m a first time mum and my little girl will soon be 5 months. I haven’t left her with anyone as of yet and I don’t feel ready! Mine and my husbands anniversary is coming up and we are going on a spa stay, my daughter is coming too! She is an amazing sleeper and sleeps 7-7.30am (bar the odd wake up if her dummy falls out and straight back to sleep)

ideally I don’t want to be in the room at 7pm for the night, would you risk doing her bedtime routine as usual, bath bottle and once she drifts off take her to a restaraunt in her pram at around 8pm? I really don’t want to mess up her routine and I appreciate how lucky I am that she sleeps great

I do feel like I need time with my husband but I don’t want to disrupt her routine!

has anyone done this before? If she wakes in a restaurant will she go back asleep as usual in her next to me or will she be startled? (Obviously I can always go back the room if she does get upset)

any advice is appreciated if anyone has done this before, it’s all new to me! Xx

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vincettenoir · 10/10/2023 18:55

It is risky but I guess you just need to plan for if she wakes. If you are happy to eat separately in a worst case scenario and won’t be too stressed by not getting a perfect romantic evening then go for it. But if on the day you’ve had a long day and you are likely to find managing the situation stressful then just have room service / a takeaway.

mysparkleismissing · 10/10/2023 18:56

I'd risk it.
But places like this might have access to babysitters if you want someone to sit in the room with her.

SchoolOfDogs · 10/10/2023 19:01

You won't know til you try.

Personally we just carried on doing things taking our babies with us, and if things didn't work out, we dealt with it. Accept that you may not get an uninterrupted meal but fingers crossed that you will.

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satellitesunshine · 10/10/2023 19:02

i’d risk it. 4/5 months seems to be when shit hits the fan sleep wise anyway 🥲

KateyCuckoo · 10/10/2023 19:02

I wouldn't be happy to turn up at a spa and eat dinner next to a baby. They're expensive retreats for adults, not children.

Our local one even has no talking zones, it's supposed to be peaceful and relaxing and many will have forked out for a babysitter only to spend their time with yours instead.

Either get a babysitter or rebook elsewhere.

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Elbee87 · 10/10/2023 19:08

Thank you! I suppose I won’t know until we try and if she wakes I will just take her the room, no problem :)

I understand your view, but this hotel is child friendly and caters amazingly for children. If the hotel is child friendly you can’t not expect people to have children there, it’s life and we have to continue to do things and make memories with our babies! If they feel so strongly about it they should go to adult only spas. A lot of them are adult only as we have had to research quite a lot to find one that accepts children under 12!

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KateyCuckoo · 10/10/2023 19:19

I didn't know child friendly spas existed! Will.make a note to double check any future bookings Grin

SchoolOfDogs · 10/10/2023 23:06

KateyCuckoo · 10/10/2023 19:02

I wouldn't be happy to turn up at a spa and eat dinner next to a baby. They're expensive retreats for adults, not children.

Our local one even has no talking zones, it's supposed to be peaceful and relaxing and many will have forked out for a babysitter only to spend their time with yours instead.

Either get a babysitter or rebook elsewhere.

🙄 If the venue allows children, OP can take her child. You'll have to go to an adult only place.

supersonicginandtonic · 10/10/2023 23:21

@KateyCuckoo I completely agree with you. If you want to go away with your baby, a spa really isn't the place.

CowboysAndCowgirls · 11/10/2023 00:39

supersonicginandtonic · 10/10/2023 23:21

@KateyCuckoo I completely agree with you. If you want to go away with your baby, a spa really isn't the place.

And yet the one OP has chosen says it's fine, which is far more important than your opinion. 🤣

UnravellingTheWorld · 11/10/2023 09:02

At 5 months, taking her asleep in the buggy to a restaurant is definitely a realistic option!

Routine is great, but the more holidays you go on the more you realize that sometimes it does have to go out the window a little bit. Having a night off the routine is honestly not going to ruin your life.

All the best, hope you have a good anniversary whatever you decide to do!

Heyhoherewegoagain · 11/10/2023 09:08

As long as you’re prepared to leave the restaurant immediately if she wakes and starts to fuss.
Sorry to be that person but when my kids were little, we had zero babysitters (complicated family health issues) so there were a lot of things we just couldn’t do, and evening dinners was one of them

SouthLondonMum22 · 11/10/2023 09:11

It isn’t something I’d risk personally but then whilst my DC is a great sleeper too, he doesn’t sleep as well in his pram and is an overtired grump even if he just naps in there which isn’t pleasant.

So we stick to his cot because it simply isn’t worth an upset, overtired baby. But then we are happy to leave him with family to go out.

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