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Different temperaments?

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Lollypopxxx · 10/10/2023 13:49

So just a bit of a post as I am stupid and a comparing type mum, constantly worrying am I not good enough am I doing right etc
i also suffer with anxiety, so constantly worry.

I have a 22mo, he is the light of my life.

So he is having a really tantrum throwing stage, I believe is linked to him only being able to say some words (babble type) and not being able to fully communicate what he wants. He’s starting to say no and shake his head/put his hand up which really helps him communicate what he doesn’t want. We aren’t there with ‘yes’ yet.

Nursery have said he’s not behind but on the scale for his age he’s just meeting the minimum of amount of words he should be saying according to NHS, so they’re not worried and I shouldn’t be.

He’s been walking comfortably since 16mo, and I’ve had him out and around as he did HVe some balance issues so I was so scared and strapped him in his buggy a lot due to fear of him falling over. But now we walk a lot and he doesn’t really like his pram unless tired, I’ve got reins to build both of our confidence.

Are some kids just different temperament wise? Does my anxiety rub off on my son? Im feeling major guilt

i ask as of a night during my pre bed time wind down , I’m watching someone on YT (a low sub family vlogger which I enjoy as she’s quite real and not caught up in number of followers etc) her little boy is 3 months older than DS, he does say more words and overal seems just a lot calmer just kinds of potters round but she seems relaxed? And she said he only tantrums if tired and I thought DS will if tired or not really!

And then now I’m feeling guilty like is me being so anxious making my son reserved? Am I not doing enough speech wise (I’m trying so much I’ve got all the guidance we don’t really allow TV time and don’t have iPad etc) I’m being silly but comparing again I do it with people I know who have kids similar to DS’ age

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UnravellingTheWorld · 11/10/2023 09:31

Honestly everyone starts talking at different rates. My son had less than 20 words until he turned two, then the next day (literally) he just started talking. In a week he was using sentences. At this stage, understanding is the most important thing and he will start speaking when he discovers it's a useful skill.

Lollypopxxx · 11/10/2023 17:12

@UnravellingTheWorld Thank you. His understanding really is there it’s just the barrier of words and him not being able to fully express :(

and it’s annoying as he’s not behind, he’s still meeting requirements just on lower end of the scale and some family members seem to make comments about his speech being delayed when he isn’t even 2

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