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Toddler tantrums. Tough day

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lollyg1 · 07/10/2023 21:51

My 22mo son has really had a tantrum filled week

Mainly for me. I’m reassured by family that kids ‘act up’ for their mum and it’s because I’m his safe place. But it’s still so hard

For example today we had to leave DH’s family’s house as he was determined to go in the kitchen cupboard and play with MIL’s medications, which I didn’t allow, so he would not calm down we tried alternatives like showing him some toys, showing safe household items he could play with like wooden spoons etc

he had none of it so we had to leave - ps MIL’s kitchen/living area is open plan so there wasn’t really another room to block it off if that makes sense? It was always in sight

It was tough and it’s just one of many. I feel bad for him as he can communicate slightly (some words, amazing understanding though and can point at things he clearly wants etc) but not fully so he’s frustrated

But I just wanted to do this I needed to vent. It’s hard. every outfit change, toothbrush time is a chase for me and DH, he’s gone so fussy with food and is loving throwing pretty much everything

I know it’ll get easier for him when he can communicate more it’s just tiring atm. Especially when I just get told “ignore him he’ll stop” and tbh I cant listen to him get worked up. I let him know I’m there for him and comfort him

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Summermeadowflowers · 07/10/2023 21:53

Toddler tantrums are the worst Flowers if it helps my DS seemed a lot better at around 2 and a half. He does still have tantrums and the bad is they are so intense now but they are few and far between (he is 3 in December.)

I guess MIL couldn’t or wouldn’t put her medication away?

lollyg1 · 07/10/2023 21:55

@Summermeadowflowers Thank you <3 I know it’ll ease as he can communicate more, that’s why they feel constant atm but yeah I am so drained after today and I get mum guilt because I sometimes can’t understand him. He’s not saying sentences yet etc

Yep she just asked if he wanted some chocolate… which again I don’t fancy just piling chocolate on him mid tantrum. I comfort him and reassure him but he needed to know he can’t play with that , not “don’t play with that have some chocolate!”

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Sellingbedtime · 07/10/2023 21:56

Yes definitely vent! It's good for the soul 😊
Some weeks are hideous with toddlers. Some weeks are bliss - or the nearest possible thing!
Hope next week is a bit easier for you both

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Summermeadowflowers · 07/10/2023 21:58

Ds was only just putting two words together this time last year (bye bye mummy, hello daddy, daddy car) and so on - he talks loads now (doesn’t necessarily make much sense though!) It does get easier and I also think as you adjust you get better at sensing when things might be amplifying and seeking to diffuse things. So for instance I know a big trigger for ds is tiredness so if he’s woken too early I won’t take him anywhere like soft play where things could get tricky!

Bearbookagainandagain · 07/10/2023 23:16

I feel for you, I have a son the same age: it's the one you hear screaming at the top of his lung in the street, wriggling his way out of the pushchair straps because he didn't want to leave the playground...

coxesorangepippin · 07/10/2023 23:30

Only go to places where he's manageable

Maybe mils isn't it

Parks are good

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