I feel like such a failure. They cannot stop feckin bickering. I have just had the most horrendous carry on from DS2, they have both been grounded and still they are bickering.
Got Ds1 from school, we were waiting on DS2. Ds2 appeared, in a huff.
Now this usually means lots of coaxing and persuasion to get him to do anything. Got to the shop and gave them 50p each. Ds2 pissed about deciding what he wanted, him and DS1 were arguing. 6 boxes of lightbulbs got knocked over, then a display of easter cards. By this point I had paid. DS2 however, was sitting on the floor of the shop, not wanting to go and pay because there was a huge queue, so i told him to put them back and we would go. of course he wouldn't do that either, and was prepared to sit on the floor and wait till God knows when till the line went down. I ended up screaming at him and hauling him out of the shop. Then he took off again, with cries of I hate you, to me and DS1. DS1 then started swearing at him (another bone of contention)so of course he ran over and started shouting at DS1, then DS1 hit him, so DS2 - well you get the picture. Tjis goes on all the time, incessantly winding each other up. Ds1 used to be the one with behaviour problems but its currently DS2.
I have also just lost the plot completely with DS1. 3 times I told him to come in and shut the door and stop talking to his friends ont eh doorstep. I end up heating the street, but no, he's still bloody there, so have yelled at hima nd slammed the door shut.
Thing is I don't feel any better for it. We have 6 different behaviour/sticker charts charts for various things, but it's not working, wjhere the fuck am I going wrong