Background: my child was exposed to DV at a young age (under) and we both had trauma and PTSD diagnoses. We've both had a lot of therapy. We recently moved countries. He is now age 7.
My DS is an angel at home. He tries to be independent. Tries to help mummy with everything. Doesn't protest much. Never throws a temper tantrum about being told he can't do something. He's the type of kid you could take him for a long awaited day out at the theatre or amusement park - get there and find out it's closed and he'd be ok. I mean I feel fortunate every day that I have such a sweet child.
Today I found out he is having all kinds of problems at school not engaging with curriculum and having big outburts - yelling at staff, name calling, throwing things. He's also touching his private parts all the time! :( We talked about some things to about the behavior. Talked about the follow-up with SEN who was sick today. Talked about how we will look into his concentration.
But OMG I need some views, reassurance, suggestions...?
It was recently said to me - a kid can't switch off neurodiversity like ADHD or ASD and be fine at home and not at school. But going down the road of assessments again makes me feel awful for him and stressed for me. Every day I ask him how school was. He's only told me math is too hard. I ask him about getting in trouble - he assures me none...but that's not true! However in aftercare at another location the staff have assured me all is fine - no problems.
Now he did have issues being away from me at camp and once he got in trouble he was sent home immediately. And after that misbehaved constantly to deliberately get sent home because in his words, he was scared I was going to get on the plane and move without him!! Bringing me to another important point - we don't really have any family, just me and him.
Thoughts? Ideas?