Lost motivation about career after becoming mum

[Newmumnotso]

I have returned from mat leave for six months now but I have lost all motivation at work and career. I used to be driven and ambitious pre-kids. I feel exhausted with toddler and trying to just stay afloat both at home and work. I have recently got a promotion and planning another DC.
I know I am not doing great at work. But, I want to do well in career and home. I feel if I get too focused on career then I won't be a good mum and want to spend as much time possible with my DC.
I just feel lost and it feels like I am starting afresh at everything due to long mat leave. My confidence has also been affected as I was off for 15 months .
Any suggestions are much appreciated.

I have built a career by working over 10 years and earning over 65k. Some days I feel like leaving work force but can't afford to be SHAP, both mentally and financially.

Getting the balance you can feel satisfied with your life is very difficult ... and it changes over time.

Be kind to yourself.... pre it sounds like your considered your value and self worth were focused on your career. Now your circumstances have changed, so you need to re-focus on what is important to you and how you see yourself going forward .

Your decision needs to be right for you and your family's circumstances... but there will always be compromises - more time with family probably means less earnings and career progress (for now at least)... more time with career possibly means bringing in more support with children and having to juggle caring/family time.

No matter what you decide... you already realise having a family is life-changing ... so you won't be able to carry on as before. It is physically and mentally demanding.

Remember ... children don't remain children forever, and no matter your choice now, things will change with family and career over the years.

Finally, there is no right or wrong choice. Your choice will be different from others. But sometimes those others will sound as though they don't value your choice, or make you feel you have made the wrong choice. That's all right.. its your family life, not theirs .. and you are free to stick with or change your choice at any time 😉

I feel the same. I'm dealing with it by having the plan that for the next five years I'm happy to coast, or at least not be ambitious - that way I maintain worl life balance and will have a platform to focus on career more when the kids are older.