Really bad night :(

[KellyLx]

So I’m unsure what even happened last night. Our bed time routine did vary from plan , I had to put 22mo DS back in bath as just as we were about to come up and read our story and settle down - he had the biggest poop that I had to basically hose him down

from there he was RAGING if we were in the bedroom wouldn’t go in his cot or even our bed he just screamed. So we went down but at about. 10 to 8 I brought him up as it’s late, we have work and he has nursery so I’d like him to have a good sleep.

getting him down was more than a struggle I had to basically just reassure him and give him the odd hug kiss (that he’d let me) as he screamed. He went to sleep

then woke at 12am and was only happy if I brought him downstairs to play but eventually I had to bring him up and it was torture he screamed he fumed he was having the biggest meltdown and I cried with him. I got a bit upset

He went into nursery absolutely fine and I’m starting work and just feel like the worst mum I don’t know if he had a nightmare in the night? As th E only other odd time he’s been inconsolable is when we’ve concluded he’s had a nightmare

I’m pregnant with DD so now feel extra emotional and feel like DS hates me :( it was such an awful night

Oh you poor thing OP, i don’t have advice really as my baby is much younger but didn’t want to read and run. You aren’t a bad mum! Sometimes kids have big feelings and they just have to run their course. We can’t control everything and we can’t soothe everything. But you were there for him and that is what matters. Go easy on yourself, raising little ones (especially at night!) is no cake walk and you’re doing a great job 💐 today is a new day and tomorrow will be too.

Maybe he is coming down with something? Hope tonight is better for you. He's going to have lots more meltdowns over lots of stuff, it's tough but try not to let it upset you & make you cry.

Thank you both! Just very sleep deprived, hormonal and as he’s quite young and my first the major meltdowns are newish!!

We did give calpol because at one point during the screaming he was putting his hands/fingers in his mouth, he has pretty much all his teeth from what we can see but I thought maybe a back one popping through?
maybe wind? Maybe overtired ???
it’s so hard when he can only say certain things and show me

he can show me where he wants to go what toy or book he wants what snack he wants etc. But of course if he had any belly pain or wind I don’t think he’d know to point to his belly

I just needed a little release of emotions I cried for hours which is silly but him being that upset broke my hesrt

Perhaps he had pain in his belly as you say he had a massive poo earlier. Let's hope tonight is better. 🤞🏼

Hope you’re having a better night, OP.

It did all probably happen because he needed a poo/was teething, etc, but a couple of things about your post made me think you’ll need to be careful you don’t find yourself giving in to him too much.

Most toddlers would be happier to be downstairs playing than in bed! But often keeping them happy can’t be the goal - you need to get comfortable with him being pissed off at you because you’re making him do something he doesn’t like. It’s basically what life is all about for him for the next couple of years!

So you need to find a way to hold those boundaries and not get too upset by it.