When do you raise concerns?

[Lightintherain]

I am feeling very stressed and worried . I can’t stop feeling as if my nearly three year old might be neurodiverse. I feel as if raising it with the HV might be creating problems that don’t exist and I think DH would be against it as well. Also a big part of me thinks there’s no point as obviously it isn’t ‘curable.’ Equally though I feel really overwhelmed with parenting at the moment. Not sure what to do!

I raised all concerns pretty much straightaway. Always started with GP but I did speak to HVs too. That's what they are there for! When your DC is under 5 you do need support.

What did they actually do?

What did they actually do?

They advised really, on strategies
and referrals and when not
to worry.

Why do you think your child is ND OP?

Sorry - bad signal.

This is what I’m thinking will happen, just being given strategies, and it does make me think there’s little to no point. It would literally just be to potentially put a name to behaviours.

@TwentyTwenty20 , I don’t, exactly. I’m worried he is, and I go between thinking he is and that I’m worrying unnecessarily.

My worries are firstly language. He talks a lot but can’t really talk ‘with’ you in the sense that you can ask a question and then get an answer.

Second worry is aggression, this is a lot better but he is unpredictable. He bites, punches kicks and pinches. That sounds really bad written down and like I say it’s better, we can go weeks with no incidents. But I don’t know any other children his age who behave like that.

He doesn’t seem to engage at Salk with attempts to potty train.

There are others, it’s more that when I look at kids his age they seem a lot more advanced somehow. Even if they aren’t behaving well.

I mean this gently but I'm not sure I'm following your logic. Better to raise all these issues now and get help rather than when you are starting school. I think it's possibly true that you'll mainly get strategies but if you have strategies that help then why not? As I understand it parenting a neurodivergent child does require a different approach.

I think because literally nothing seems to have any effect at all. So it does feel pointless because if we get strategies but they don’t work, there’s no point getting outside agencies involved, if that makes sense.