4 and 6 year age gap

[Clarity16]

Hi,

Does anybody have experience of a third child with a 4 and 6 year age gap to its two older siblings? Do they play and have a good bond?

I lost a pregnancy back in February in quite traumatic circumstances that would have due around now. I'm trying again but find myself fixating on the bigger gap compared to what would have been.

Thanks

I’m so sorry OP.

My siblings and I have that age gap and it was never a problem for us. As in, no one felt too old to play with anyone else etc. My brother and sister 6 years apart always got on very well. And as adults you wouldn’t even realise.

But obviously I can’t comment from the side of a parent!

My brother is 7 years younger than me and he's my best friend. Always has been.
I was like his 2nd mum when he was born and now we're like close friends. I know people who have siblings a year or 2 apart and then fight like cat and dog, its more personality than the age gap. Good luck x

Mine were 4 and 7 when my third was born and they all play together lovely so far.

it’s hard sometimes managing the demands of a younger sibling but I think that’s true at any age gap

For me it’s lovely they are all little at the same time but also the first year or two wasn’t quite as tricky as it could have been as the other two were a little older

Thank you

Any other responses or experiences?

I have a similar age gap and there are times that they played together, times that they didn't get along and times that they were indifferent to each other.

When the oldest was primary age then playing together was fine. Around the time that they started secondary they moved into more indifferent but that's a natural life stage towards me as a parent too. Oldest is 22 and youngest is 17 and they have a good relationship. They don't go out together but they borrow each other's clothes and help each other out.

As dc1 and dc2 go to school then you should get some quality time with dc3. Doing the school run forces you into a routine early and the older 2 are reasonable enough to understand that you can't do something NOW but will do it once you've changed a nappy or whatever.