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Daughter being bullied… how to deal with things.

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User474738473747322 · 28/09/2023 16:40

Hopefully this one get too long. But DD 8 is having issues with a girl who was previously her close friend for a few years, I started to realise that this friendship wasn’t healthy a while ago, but a lot went over dd’s head and she has other friends too…. But since September this said girl has been awful, more awful than normal . It would take too long to talk about all the issues but her ‘friend’ is being very passive aggressive, she acts on DD’s vulnerabilities ie taking DD’s belongings and running away knowing dd cannot catch up with as dd has gross motor skill delays and hypermobility, she also pushes her knowing dd is unsteady on her feet and falls easily. Over the years she has stopped dd playing with friends but now the ‘friend’ is playing with these girls and excluding dd.

there’s a whole bunch of other things too!

although I know the kids mother pretty well, I decided to just deal with it within the school and the teacher said he’d speak to said friend but since then the nastiness has got worse!

the mother then had the audacity to confront me and tell me dd is the problem but I know this isn’t true, I would put my hands up if my kid was in the wrong but even the teacher is starting to see the issues. I held back at the time and said I think your daughter is excluding dd but I wish I had the guts to tell her how awful her daughter has been but it was outside the school and I didn’t want to cause a scene in front of others.

my daughter is usually a happy confident girl but she’s become a shell of herself recently! She didn’t talk the whole way home from school.

school will be contacted again!

how do I support my daughter through this? She doesn’t want to talk about it half the time so dread to think what dd hasn’t mentioned regarding this girl.

without making it about myself, I’m in tears, I went through similar as a kid

with my oldest child, a boy, we have never had many friendship issues nor did he really care what others thought of him

with dd it’s all new to me!

The worst thing is, she’s horrid to dd but the other day she came knocking want to play!

OP posts:
Tiredandstressedmum · 28/09/2023 19:58

So sorry OP children can be so cruel.
It's the schools responsibility to deal with this, I would be asking for a meeting with the teacher principal and someone in pastural care within the school if they have it. List your concerns and effect it's having on your DD and ask the school what their plan is to deal with it and how and when it'll be reviewed.
Your DD has a disability which this girl is effectively picking on her for, the school needs to be doing something.
Personally I would not speak to the other parent and if she brings it to you just advise the school are monitoring and dealing with it.
Good luck

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