Scared of having another baby

[Hiraeth20]

I have a DS who is 2.5, he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to us and just a joy to be around. We are thinking about trying for another baby but I’m so scared of this change and what it will mean for all of us. I recently saw an Instagram post from a mother who had a second child and she said her parenting completely changed, she’s more snappy, less patient and she feels bad for both children because a) the first child has witnessed this change and b) the second child has never experienced the parent she was before. Honestly, this terrified me.
I have siblings I am very close with, I know I want this for my son and I know I do want another child but I am literally flooded by negative thoughts around what it will mean for my son and our family. How do I change my perspective?

I have no advice but totally understand how you feel. Uncertainty about how things will change if we have another baby fills me with anxiety.

I wonder if waiting for the toddler years to pass is a good idea to keep our sanity and help be patient with the children.

i think parenting two or more toddlers can turn the calmest people mad. Toddlers are A LOT OF WORK. Emotionally and physically.

I felt like this and now have a six months old baby brother for DS (3.5). It made me v emotional during pregnancy especially at the end. Tbh it's been so much better than I feared so far. My DS1 has been slowly adjusting. He isn't keen on babies generally but so protective of dS2 and they are already interacting lots.

If you'd like a second then please don't get distracted by the silly SM stuff. You would still be there for your eldest and you would be giving them a sibling, which is such a gift. Someone to share childhood with and remember it when we are gone. It isn't a bad thing for our eldest to have to share us and not always be centre of everything. Hopefully it will help with learn to compromise and be a better adult. And in the best scenario, be a ready made best friend.

Good luck!