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What's wrong with me??

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PurpleOrchid42 · 28/09/2023 03:15

Hi, I'm just wondering if anyone else has this problem and has any advice. I'm feeling very hormonal right now, possibly peri menopause and really struggling with brain fog, so I don't know if that's part of this, but anyway...

I have two kids, aged 5 and 2. I have this problem where if I'm talking to someone (another adult) at a playgroup, for example, and my child approaches me and starts asking for something, I don't seem to notice them. Like my brain seems so focused on the conversation I'm having that I don't notice they're talking to me until they start getting upset with me. Like my youngest will start crying and saying 'mummy I want...' and then I'll suddenly hear her and realise she's been asking for whatever it is for a few minutes, trying to get my attention. I feel like other parents are kind of wondering why I'm ignoring my child, but I'm actually really not, it's just that my brain no longer seems able to pay proper attention?!

I feel awful about this. I feel like I'm a neglectful parent, like I'm teaching my children they have to kick up a fuss to get my attention, like they don't matter to me (they matter most in the world).

What is wrong with me?? Why is this happening? Is this a brain fog thing? Anyone else experienced this? It's almost putting me off going to social things with my kids.

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honeyrain · 28/09/2023 03:50

Nothing wrong with you! One of the most annoying things is when a child interrupts a parent 245621 times who is in the middle of chatting and said parent jumps to their child's every whim. The conversation is start/stop and never ends! It's also bad manners!

Children need to learn to be patient, wait until mummy has finished talking and say excuse me, before they start chatting to mummy/ask them for something.

I do find it a special skill that parents have to be able to completely zone out of hearing what their child is saying on repeat in their ear whilst simultaneously having a full flow conversation with another adult!

SummerSun123 · 28/09/2023 04:02

You are not doing anything wrong! World war 3 can be going on in the background with my two children whilst I’m on a zoom meeting. Your instinct will kick if they really need you! Don’t doubt yourself xx

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