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4 year olds behaviour

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AccountantMum · 27/09/2023 17:43

Looking for any advice -

I have 4 year old twins who have just started reception we decided to put them in separate classes because my son would always do a lot for his sister and we wanted them to be able to have their own friends ect.

His teacher called me in to school today to discuss his behaviour - she said that he becomes obsessed with other children and gets very upset if they decide to play with someone else, he is very hands on and hugging all of the other children a lot, he has been very dominating in class - she also mentioned he had put his hand in his trousers to fiddle with the label on his pants (he does do this at home when he is tired).

She said he's very bright and getting along well in all other aspects of school.

I'm not sure what to do to help him regarding the behaviour - it is similar to how he behaves at home however up until this point I had not thought his behaviour abnormal for a 4 year old - and his nursery hadn't mentioned anything to be concerned about. She did seem concerned (enough to call me in to school) but I didn't come away with any suggestions on how to improve things.

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Changethetoner · 27/09/2023 17:51

He needs to start hearing the word NO. For example, if someone doesn't want a hug, and lets him know, (either by words or body language), then he needs to hear and understand that it means he has to STOP doing what he is doing, and respect the other person's personal space.

Tell him it's okay to offer a hug, but it is not okay to insist on doing it if it is unwanted. He might think hugging is a sign of friendliness or affection, which it is, but it also can be physically intimidating and dominating. Try and explain this to him. eg. Sarah doesn't like that. Sarah doesn't want a hug right now.

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