2yo shouting at me!

[mamaxbear]

What do you do when your two year old becomes bossy/shouting at you? All I hear these days is “no mummy” “go away mummy” “it’s mine mummy”. I don’t know how to respond in a way that isn’t encouraging the behaviour or giving it too much attention! I will tell her no that’s not nice etc but she literally gives 0 f’s hahaha

Ignore and don't respond to shouty demands. If she gets really irate just explain you cannot hear her when she shouts / speaks rudely, so she must use a quiet/polite voice. Demonstrate it for her.

(Or just get used to it as I've done 😂)

You remain calm and patient and stand your ground. While avoiding falling into a petty argument.

Countdowns can be very helpful - you say I want you to give me the thing/do the thing etc by the time I count to three - they always lose their resolve!

If they continually do something that's just annoying, ignore as far as you can

Have a consequence for them not doing what you ask, eg no TV or you choose the TV programme, sitting out for a minute, toy goes up on high shelf for ten mins etc. Doesn't matter what so long as it signals disapproval

Tell her that you will not respond/can't hear her when she shouts, only when she speaks calmly and normally. Then just ignore her for as long as it takes.

My experience was that the crescendo normally died down quite quickly.