co-sleeping - advice needed!

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Hello! I need some advice on co-sleeping, being a bit of a paranoid first-time Mum! Basically, at the moment i sleep with my DD (2 weeks old) so that she's in the crook of my arm, lying across my body, on her back. I make sure the duvet is well out of the way. But is there a right or wrong way of doing this? Do other people lie the baby in the bed next to them? I just want to be safe! Our current method seems to be working for us, although she does seem to get a bit hot, but i feel like I'm making it up as I go along! Thanks in advance - and i hope this isn't a really stupid question!

Hi, my dd nearly 10 months still co sleeps with us. I found that she did get a little too warm for my liking so I pushed the duvet down to my waist left her in a sleeping bag when it was really cold or babygro and cardi when warmer and i wear a hoody to keep me warm.

Hang on a sec- just bought a fab gadget for our LO (due in next few weeks but we've always co-slept, often still do with all 3 LOL)

here

i got mine elsewhere (didnt know Argos were doing it) but its fab quality and solves duvet riding up problems etc

Unfortunately when I found out about these my dd was getting a big too big for it Peachy, also how do you get them to STOP co sleeping cos im soooooo tired after last night, my dd has decided its fun to poke my eyes bounce on me and then try to bf whilst kneeling on my tummy....

BUt on a positive note I do love it when she helps herself at night to milk

Might do for OP though if hers is 2 weeks?

Stopping co-sleeping..... well DS1 is 8......

no bloody idea!

Hoping that 6 in a smallish bed will help though

ROFL I dont want my other 3 co sleeping with us as well think it would be too much with ds17, dd15, dd13 dd 9.5mths, dh and me? I guess they do leave the bed at some stage though! That link you gave is a great item though I deffinately would have had one from the start if I had realised

Peachy - what age do you think you could use the snuggle nest to?

jenny think someone told me about 4 months but dont quotr me on that

I do the same and have to push the duvet right down as DS hates it near his feet. He usually starts off with a baby blanket over him which gets kicked off. I wear a nightie and a cardy unbuttoned for feeding. Now DS is 8 months I sometimes swap him over to the middle of the bed with the duvet over his leggies which sometimes settles him if he's wakeful. We love co sleeping - it works well for us so far

That snuggle nest looks amazing peachy!
Will definitley look into it for next DC.

It's really nice to hear people who think co sleeping is nice and not just bad/lazy/weird parenting.

DS is about to be moved into a little bed at the end of ours as he is too huge at 2years but i don't like the thought of making him sleep in a room by himself - i really wouldn't like it so i don't see why he should!

Jenny I think it would depend on baby size tbh- mine are usually quite small so I think we'd make it last until 6 months easy but my sisters ds1 would've managed a week LOL (chunky lad!)

Definitely a minimum of 4 months though, we have one instead of buying a crib for upstairs and it will double as a camp bed for him too as it is a good carry style.

BTW what I am doing with ds1- obv he's older but that's in part mitigated by some degree of SN, he hates being alone which is why he's so into co-sleeping so we're having a phase of rooming in where he sleeps on the floor in my room, breaking the physical bond of co-sleeping but not developing any fears iyswim. kinda staging it.

Peachy that's what i'm going for too - it seems rather harsh to take DS from our bed straight into a room by himself. More room in the bed for me!

Redyellowblue - I wrap the duvet round me and dd lies next to me in her sleeping bag or wrapped in her own blanket. I have my head on my pillow, my underneath arm around the top of her head and down her back and use my other hand to support her back while she lies on her side and feeds. When she's finished, I wriggle my arms back in under the duvet, but still lie facing her. I may be wrong, but I think it's safer to have your baby next to you - partly because of heat, but also in case baby rolls off you while you're asleep. Someone who knows more may correct me.
Really jealous of you all for successfully cosleeping . I think it's fab - not lazy or weird. It actually makes much more sense that putting them in their own rooms.
I completely chickened out with my first - I was terrified of squishing him/suffocating him. And I've kind of done it in a half-arsed way with my second - she sleeps in with me when we go away, and if she's unsettled in the night. Still, I find it hard to sleep with her in with me because I try and lie perfectly still in case I wake her or cover her with the duvet, which isn't very relaxing!
I was reading that in some parts of the world, women have to spend 40 days in bed with their newborn after the birth. Doesn't that sound lush?

Thanks for everyone! Seems like having baby next to you rather than on top is better. Will try it tonight. Will also look at snuggle nest!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1364/484449

i got some good cosleeping advice in this thread!

we used a snuggle nest for ds just because he wriggled under the duvet (and it stopped him getting under the pillow). he loved it and gave us peace of mind.

as far as co-sleeping goes, enjoy it. I miss it now he's in his own cot in his own room but he just didnt want to sleep with mummy anymore and wanted space.

I co sleep with my two, have always done. I put the bed firmly against the wall, baby between me and the wall, duvet over me an dd him in a grobag. i love it. When dh and i were together ( spilt up a week ago) he slept with us sometimes, other times in the spare room. I also did the open nightie/cardie for bf.