How to keep connection with eldest after #2

[blueberry23]

We've recently had our second baby. My eldest is 2 and very close to his dad but I'm struggling as I feel I never get to do the fun stuff any more as I'm always exhausted or with the baby!

My DH does bedtime, and generally all the playing at weekends etc though I do have them both most of the week.
I find though when I make a conscious effort to dedicate time my toddler only wants his dad right now!

I'm missing our connection. Any tips on reestablishing it?

I am breastfeeding too so it feels like the baby is very dependant on me. He's 10 weeks old.

That's so tough, you must be feeling exhausted. I'm pregnant with my second and my son will be 2 when the baby arrives and I'm worried about our bond being affected. Can you alternate bedtime? So dad takes the baby whilst you do bedtime and have one on one time, stories and cuddles etc. can you go somewhere fun together at the weekend, so you're all there but dad holds the baby whilst you do the fun playing with your son?

When I was breast feeding I would always read a book with my oldest. It was cuddle time.