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My husband says we are sh*t parents!

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Mum9900 · 23/09/2023 11:18

I struggle with being good enough as a parent as it is, but he often talks about how sht we are as parents and it really gets me down. It's like he includes us both so he's not just saying it to me, but it's me that he hurts. It's the usual stuff, screen time, not eating well etc. Our kids are 17, 14 and 12 and we've recently started going out a few hours at a time to go down the local pub. He says we are sht parents cos we go out drinking and leave the kids home alone, but I think they are old enough to spend a few hours alone. I can't stop thinking about it and I want to be a great Mum but I am not sure about anything.

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Notamum12345577 · 23/09/2023 20:05

DustyLee123 · 23/09/2023 11:25

Going to the pub frequently isn’t being a good role model. Going out to exercise regularly is. So tell him to get off his arse, cook a nutritious meal, then take you all out for a walk.

Really? She doesn’t say she is going every night!

Mischance · 23/09/2023 20:06

I guess it depends how often you do it. If he thinks going down the pub is shit parenting then he is not obliged to do it!

Aquamarine1029 · 23/09/2023 20:09

Well, that's settled then. Your husband can stay home to achieve Perfect Dad status and you can go relax in the pub with all the other shit parents.

(You're not a shit parent, obviously.)

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Onedayatattime · 23/09/2023 20:30

Well it sounds like he feels guilty but still doesn't want to compromise. Have you told him how his comment makes you feel, well shit. I'd say I'm not going to the pub with you then if that's how it makes you feel I suggest we take it in turns and I'll go with friends.

If you think the kids should eat differently please stop complaining and do something to improve the situation you're not happy with.

Howdoesitworkagain · 23/09/2023 22:42

RedAndWhiteCarnations · 23/09/2023 11:45

Why are you not asking the question about the OP’s DH going out to the pub - seeing that they are at the pub together?
Is him being at the pub not as bad?

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You do understand “you” can be plural and singular, don’t you? And also that OP said “we”, so when I said “you” that it is, in fact, the plural “you” that I’m using?
This is a little embarrassing trying to explain basic English to someone who’s pulled me up - accusingly and incorrectly- on my question…!

Howdoesitworkagain · 23/09/2023 22:48

Mum9900 · 23/09/2023 11:55

Once every few weeks I suppose.

So you occasionally go out to the pub together and leave them alone. And you take them somewhere most weekends. And your other half is generally on the golf course if not in the pub. No OP, you are not a shit parent. Your other half is not necessarily a shit parent either but certainly sounds quite absent.

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 23/09/2023 22:49

If your dc were failing, I could see his point. But, it doesn’t sound like it.

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