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HELP - what is wrong with my toddler?

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BlueBritish · 23/09/2023 07:58

Hi all,
The subject is probably a bit harsh as I know there’s probably nothing ‘wrong’ as such but these past few weeks have been so difficult with my 3yo DD. I find that she’s demanding EVERYTHING even when we agree with her about something she will change her mind and get angry as to make life difficult for some reason. Bedtimes are so challenging. Now, they always have been a bit tricky for my DD but these last few weeks have been so bad I feel like I’ve got a newborn again (but this one talks about life for 3 hrs in the middle of the night). I currently have to stay with her until she falls asleep as she will say ‘I can’t sleep without you here’ and cry endlessly. So I’ll stay and she’ll fall asleep but I’ve been up with her 3-6 times in the night at the minute and it’s not nice, she’s screaming and shouting at me and everything I do doesn’t seem to be right. She doesn’t want to get in our bed but she doesn’t want us to lay in her bed, she wants me to sit on the floor until she goes back to sleep, any wrong move and she’s screaming at me. Before anyone says it, of course I’ve been putting my foot down with her, only problem is when it’s 2am and shows no sign of going back to sleep when we have work in the morning, I desperately try anything.

Before the summer holidays my DD started nursery, for about a month, now she’s back after the 6 weeks. I didn’t know if this was what was causing the problems but she wasn’t like this before the summer holidays.

I could just really do with some advice or even someone to tell me it gets better SOON.🤣

TIA,
One very sleep deprived mumma

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DustyLee123 · 23/09/2023 08:00

TBH with mine I used to put a film on they went to bed, just to get some time off.

00100001 · 23/09/2023 08:34

She's 3 and is exploring her boundaries and changing a lot, and probably exhausted from nursery.

3 is fucking hard.

What controlled choices does she have? So for example, does she get to choose what clothes she wears? It a choice of ham or cheese in her sandwich etc.

Set down the rules of what will happen at bedtime,and stick to them. She can choose stuff like, which PJs to wear,which cuddly to have in bed etc. But you decide things like if you are in bed with her or sitting by the bed. Let her know the routine and stick to it.

Lots of cuddles, hugs and love are eeded through the 3s.

Good luck.

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