Son terrified of "shouty" teachers. His schooling is suffering! Help!

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My son is in 1st yr of a good secondary school (Northern Ireland) He had a really difficult year last year as hi P7 teacher was a very Cross and shouty woman who he was terrified of.

This was awful as his anxiety went through the roof and he ended up needing counselling and we did two anxiety camps with him over the summer to get him ready for secondary school.

He settled in brilliantly except for one woman who teaches him maths for one period a week and LW for one period a week. She is again older cross and shouty. He's terrified of her. He said some of the kids in the class shout back at her and yesterday he had her last period and he came out physically shaking.

He has her today last period for LW and he has messaged me 3 times to say he feels sick. Sore tummy and wants to come home.

I need all your help on tips to help him cope with shouty r teachers. (I should add they aren't shouting at him just the whole class)

Please spam me with advice xx

Speak to Head of Year and see if he can have a different teacher would be the best way for school but you really need more counselling. He's going to come across plenty of shouty people in his life and it will restrict his future jobs etc.

Thank you. I wasn't sure if that was a justified request.

Normally it wouldn't be but you've had counselling and special anxiety camps so can prove it is a serious problem.

I didn't see you mention your GP, have you gone to them regarding his anxiety over shouting as it seems rather extreme. They might be able to prescribe beta blockers(?) and cbt. Something has triggered your son and now is the time to throw everything at it, even if they do agree to moving him. How does he cope in a shouty playground or schoolbus? Is it just shouty women or is it male teachers too? Is a shouty woman outside the classroom okay? Does the specific classroom have an echo in it or do the acoustics make it louder? Fact find and don't stop.

So sorry your DS is dealing with this.
Unfortunately there will be shouty people wherever he goes so the best thing would be to work on his resilience and confidence. Saying that I would 100% speak to the school, could your DS meet with the teacher one on one as maybe seeing her on her own in a different setting would make him realise she's not scary it's just her teaching style?

Is she shouty because she has a noisy class or is she shouting and picking on individual pupils?

Thank you for the replies.

We have spoken to the GP. She was great and referred us to a crisis
Group who explained the waiting
Lists here and directed us to private counsel.

He doesn't like shouty teachers. Doesn't have any experience of shouty male teachers but I imagine he would have the same issue.

We don't really shout in our house. We all rub along nicely and the kids are fairly well behaved and get along. School is the only place he has encountered shouty people.

I will get him another counselling period. Just wondered how to help him in the mean time.