DC13 got stoned with friend. Do I tell friend's mum?

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DC13 came home last night very stoned and feeling "unwell" after hanging out with a friend, and came clean about the whole experience: it was the first time for both of them, they bought it in a dodgy bong shop. DC categorically never wants to do it again, and says the friend didn't like it either.

I actually assumed the other mum would notice as it pretty obvious my DC was stoned (they both briefly went back to friend's house and I know they had a conversation with the mum). However I sent a vague message to the mum saying "how was X" and it was clear from her reply that she hadn't noticed anything. Btw I don't really know the mum, apart from brief acknowledgments about sleepovers etc.

I don't know whether to tell the friend's mum, or just let it go. I'm glad DC was honest with me as usually it's like getting blood out of a stone getting them to confide in me. I suspect if I tell friend's mum, DC will be less likely to open up about this sort of thing.

Yes, is say something. They're 13. Different if they were 16.

Yes, you need to safeguard the child and tell the parent.

Prepare for your DC to be blamed for the entire thing if you do.

My DD is 12 and if she ever did anything like this I would want to know

Maybe have a chat with your DC, so they know why you need to share this with the other parent. What (sometimes) works with DD is asking her what she would do as a parent in the same situation, usually when it's something serious she agrees that the proposed course of action is sensible

At 13, yes the mum needs to know
Doesn’t sound like the best experience though, so hopefully it’s been a deterrent to trying it again!

@PenelopeTheShroudWeaver "What (sometimes) works with DD is asking her what she would do as a parent in the same situation, usually when it's something serious she agrees that the proposed course of action is sensible". Good idea.