Swinging between extremes of wanting a third and completely the opposite!

[Redhothoochycoocher]

I'm sure this is hormonal but I have periods of thinking I absolutely, 100% would not want a third child and other times thinking it would be amazing to have one more.

How did you/are you making a decision about this?

For context - DH loves the idea of a third but will go with what I want. He works a lot and most childcare falls to me. I've had to change career to accommodate family life. Practically a third child would be such hard work but emotionally/psychologically I never thought my last pregnancy would be my last and feel a bit of a loss when I think I won't have any more.

So how did you make the decision to have 1 more or stick with 2?

We got sick of talking about it, thinking about it and the decision just lurking there in the background. In the end we figured that the fact the idea hadn’t faded as life moved along was our answer and we went for it. I know how you feel though, I would have periods of time where I’d feel we were done with two then I’d see a family of 5 on a day out and the thinking would start all over again. I was also pretty confident it wasn’t broodiness per se as I had no desire to go through another pregnancy and I’m not a fan of the early baby stage. But I felt willing to go through all that one more time to build a bigger family long term. And the instant number three was out I felt absolutely and completely done, in a way I hadn’t after I had my second.