So my lb is 11 weeks old and we're loving life with him around.
My mother has been incredibly judgmental since he arrived and even before.
I bought a perineal bottle and she rolled her eyes saying you'll never need it - I did very much so need it after my episiotomy, the same with muslins. There's judgement for using a snot sucker because she never did, my bouncer chair because it has a battery powered vibrate button and she had to bounce ours with her foot when we were kids, changing mat because she did it on her knee (she also had 3 girls and I've got a boy who loves to wait til his nappy is off to pee lol).
It's really getting to me now, she's belittling the difficult recovery I had from my lb's birth too. As I said before I had an episiotomy and it got infected, a stitch loosened and I had a gaping hole where it shouldn't be. Overall it was honestly traumatising for me. My older sister was asking me yesterday about the episiotomy and I said how it was so painful to urinate after it, my mother chirped in trying to say it only hurt the second time she urinated after giving birth. She didn't seem impressed when I pointed out that she didn't have an episiotomy and I was referencing the wound from that and not (luckily for her) a cut free labor.
Has anyone else had their mother try to judge every little thing they do/buy.
If she keeps this up I'm going to snap, I find it hard to agree with her parenting advice (that 99% of the time I've not asked for) because she was so neglectful when I was growing up and allowed us to come to harm with an ex.