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Any tips to get me through the next few years

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anyadvicefor · 20/09/2023 14:16

I'm 18 weeks pregnant and have a nearly 1 year old. Baby was 8 months when I conceived so it'll be a 17 month age gap. I'm shitting jt I'm not Gona lie. Any advice ?

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CinemaCrazy · 22/09/2023 17:03

Please tell me how to do this ?!
could you try staying in the room with her saying mummy’s here or singing perhaps, comfort her but don’t get her out? I agree about a blanket or soft toy being part of the bedtime routine.

halofromtheotherside · 22/09/2023 19:50

Honestly @anyadvicefor I would fork out £100 for a sleep consultant. It will be the best money you've ever spent. We used Charmian Mead and got immediate results. Really like her approach.

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anyadvicefor · 22/09/2023 19:54

So she has a comforter, it works wonders to be honest she loves it, but just not for this. She also has a dummy.

So tonight thought I was making some progress, she fell asleep down here, took her upstairs to her cot, she stayed down for maybe 45 mins then woke crying, I went in didn't say a word lay her down and she went back to sleep for 10 mins, woke again, crying and standing up this time, did the same thing but she was up again within 5 mins, tried to do it again but this time she was having none of it, absolutely hysterical, dh was falling asleep on the sofa so he's just gone up with her. Never ending !!

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anyadvicefor · 22/09/2023 19:55

halofromtheotherside · 22/09/2023 19:50

Honestly @anyadvicefor I would fork out £100 for a sleep consultant. It will be the best money you've ever spent. We used Charmian Mead and got immediate results. Really like her approach.

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anyadvicefor · 22/09/2023 19:55

18monthapprehension · 22/09/2023 16:27

On the other hand, a different approach could be to totally lean into the co-sleeping, if your eldest sleeps soundly in your bed and you don’t think they will be too disturbed by the newborn? Maybe get a bigger bed or even a floor bed, and plan to have toddler in the bed with you, and newborn in a next to me or similar?

We have a superking so it's not like we don't have the room. It'll prob come to this the way it's going !

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halofromtheotherside · 22/09/2023 21:04

anyadvicefor · 22/09/2023 19:55

What did this involve ?

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Lots of emphasis on daytime and bedtime routines to support sleep and prevent wake ups occurring. If they do wake it's a check back approach, we did 2 minutes, 3 minutes, 5 minutes. We never did longer than that.

She'll give you advice specific to your situation of course!

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