Enabling partner to become more responsible

[Godsplan21]

Hi all, I live with my husband and although we dont have children yet, I am still the one that is responsible for most things (shopping, changing utilities if needed, ordering dog food, arranging insurance, birthdays, etc). I am currently pregnant and dont want this to continue once the additional responsibility of school runs, trips, uniform, play dates etc kicks in. Give me your tips on behaviour that you have changed in yourself to enable your partner to do more.

I would rather this doesnt become a men bashing thread, more a positive way to encourage equality within the home.

Lets go......

I realise that its easy to judge based on a short paragraph. It may seem like he does nothing and is not a 'grown man' however there are plenty of tasks that he does that I dont (anything car related - MOT, Service, tyre change, mechanics etc, all DIY and decorating, all garden maintenance, Saturday deep cleans etc) He is naturally good at some things so takes those on and me others, I just feel like my things are the more daily stuff. I am quite happy with how things are tallied up AT THE MOMENT but the point of this thread I guess was to ensure that I am not doing the lions share once baby arrives. Thank you to all that have offered tips rather then just knocking my choice or telling me to pray 🤣. Calenders, task lists, fair share cards, I appreciate it all.

I also want to add to make sure that task lists, calenders etc don't become just your responsibility to organise. It's also easy to fall into the trap of DH physically doing things but you 'managing' him and taking on most or all of the mental load which can become overwhelming with a baby to consider too.

So make sure task lists or whatever you decide to use is something you sit down and do together.