Constantly on the verge of tears

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Hey guys, I really just want to know if anybody else feels like this and any suggestions to help would be fantastic

I have 3 children who are 8, 3 and 7 months. My DH works mom-Fri 8-6 so I do the majority of the caring for the children and I am at university. Im a SAHM at the moment but would like to go back to work in the near ish future.

Pretty much every day I am on the edge. I feel angry a lot, not with anyone or anything but things will tip me over the edge and I will start to cry so easily. I cry when im sad, frustrated or angry it just seems to be my go to emotion. Im exhausted by it. I get snappy at my older 2 children and 5 minutes later im profusely apologising for being such a moody mum. They are so lovely about it but then I feel guilty and cry again.

Some days I am better than others and if everything runs smoothly with home/kids/school etc then it doesn't seem too bad but I just feel so overwhelmed a lot of the time. Im starting to think im not that great at the whole mum thing but didn't feel it was half as hard before I had my third baby so im just putting it down to now having 3 and it being quite hard.

My DH helps when he can but he likes to go to the gym or see friends etc and he can be gone sometimes 4/5 evenings a week so I end up being by myself most evenings too which I don't think helps as I feel quite lonely.

He has said that he will help more and stay home but I'm yet to see much of an improvement. I just feel so defeated. I love my children more than anything and when I feel overwhelmed one of them only has to laugh or smile and it brings me right back down to earth and fills my heart.

Please say I'm not the only one!

Thanks ☺️

Your DH shouldn’t be helping he should be an active part of family life rather than acting like a single man. He needs to support you and not leave you with everything, no wonder you feel like this

I think it is very tough having children the age of yours. Their needs are so different that juggling them must be really hard. I'm not surprised you are down. Would it be possible to get the younger two into nursery a couple of mornings a week so you can get some of yourself back?

I also agree with the PP about your partner's contribution. He shouldn't be "helping out" when it doesn't inconvenience the rest of his life. He needs to be an actively participating father and partner.

DH helps when he can but he likes to go to the gym or see friends etc and he can be gone sometimes 4/5 evenings a week

This is very contradictory.
Why should he be doing this 4/5 times a week
When is it your time for a break?

Not surprised you’re overwhelmed with three children, plus uni work, everything else and your husband behaving like a teenage son. Honestly 4-5 times a week for his social life and gym, that’s very selfish when he has an actual family. You will have to deliver a good talking to I think.