To say to my friend or not

[Cakesandtoffee]

DD 4 was at a party today and she came to me at it crying saying her friend X pushed her into some netting. She calmed down after 5 mins, I saw x hovering around us. DD wanted to go back and play so I brought her over to the kids including x and reminded them all no pushing, X just laughed and ran off. I was going to say to X's mother who is also my friend about what happened but she left the party before I had a chance. Just noticed DD has a red mark and early bruising on her cheek from the push hours ago in the party. I'm just feeling very annoyed as it was obviously a big push and X's mother has no idea it happened. I'm tempted to text X's mother to tell her about what happened and the injury but don't know if there's any point

Did you see what happened yourself? If not I'd not say anything.

No, but this child would be quite rough and when DD was telling me x stood there guiltily. I was more going to ask friend if x mentioned the incident and advise DD has quite a bad bruise on her cheek so was checking what had happened

Kids getting over excited at a party is usual
not nice if your DD has a mark on her face
the kids are young - this happened hours ago and the pusher won’t remember so what would be the point

Your DD was perfectly happy to go back and play after suggesting she was ok and not unduly upset / in pain
Assigning words like the other kid was behaving guiltyly is assigning very adult feelings and behaviours to 4 year olds

No. At their age, if nobody saw you don't know for certain what happened or how that bruise has been caused.

Even for learning or disciplining it has to be done at the time.

Soft play? Always ends up in pushing and shoving! I imagine the intent wasn't to hurt but because everything is soft, there's a lot of rambunctuous play and kids getting knocked into things. Every time I take my 4yo and her pal, one or other of them has a sob story about something that happened in the ball pit. Doesn't sound like a big deal - if mum was there was the time she'd probably have said something but definitely not worth rehashing it after.

At 4 your child is likely to.do the same sometime.
This is a non event.

Oh god no do not text your friend!

The other kid could’ve been hanging round to try and say her side of the story if your child maybe shoved her first…just a thought. But they are 4 year olds..leave them be.

Lol thank you for your responses and a dose of much needed reality. No DD didn't even know about the mark until I asked her, think I'll just leave it but keep an eye next time we meet up.