Mixed sex sleepovers

[birker]

Just looking for some views. My DS has a friend coming for a sleepover next weekend.
DS is 9, is friend is an 8 (almost 9) year old girl.

They get on good, normal friendship. DS sees her no different to his male friends. She is a bit Tom-boyish but they just get on well in general, similar sense of humour and interests.

DS has had his male friends for sleepovers and they've slept in the same room, on an airbed on the floor. Also, we have a sofa bed in the spare room that folds into a double bed. There's a tv in that room and often they end up having a movie night in there and falling asleep.

At their age is this still appropriate or should they be in separate rooms? We do have a spare room but I guess half the fun on the sleepover is being together?

I said to him last night that next weekend Emily might need to sleep in the spare room and him in his own bed and he was genuinely confused. I think they're still at the innocent and naive stage that they can't see the difference when it's mixed sex

I think that age is just about ok. Drfo no older tho.

And you'd have to check with the other mum and what they feel comfortable happening.

Thanks @Vintagecreamandcottagepie il de definitely ask her mum what she's comfortable with if there was a chance of them sharing.

I didn't want to ask her at all of even suggesting that sharing might be an option was completely inappropriate

This was my dd. Only girl in a friendship group of boys. She went to some sleepovers but there was always a few of them and on airbeds in the living room. Mum's offered her a room of her own but she obviously wanted to be with her names, was never a problem.
This happened all through junior school so up to age 10ish. Naturally stopped after that as they went to different high schools.

*mates not names!

My daughters the same, friends all boys. I've no suspicions of her or the friends being in any way interested in eachother. They sleep downstairs on the sofa and sofa bed in the living room. They're 12. She did ask for some new boy friends to sleep over the other week and that was a flat no. It's only because I know the old friends so well I'm happier with it.

@Multipleexclamationmarks thanks for the perspective.

This is just going to the the 2 of them rather than a group sleepover - not sure if that makes a difference.

They're part of a bigger friendship group that is a mix of boys and girls and until now the boys have only had sleepovers with the boys and vice versa.

I'm maybe overthinking it.....I'll ask the girls mum how she feels about it

My daughters 2 best friends are both boys, they have just turned 11am sleep in the same room.