Struggling need vent. No1 to talk too

[Hickpusher2022]

So I’m mum to a beautiful amazing 2yr LG old and now a beautiful amazing almost 6 week old LB. But boy am I struggling!

im just so overwhelmed and feel like I’m failing so much! We had a terrible awful time when my LG was little she cried none stop and I mean none stop. Due to umbilical hernia severe reflux and a lovely bout of colic. We stupidly thought we would be lucky/more prepared second time around however I feel like history is starting to repeat itself. LB will
be 6 weeks on Tuesday and he just seems miserable! Absolutely miserable. He never seems content also seem to always cry is awful to settle to sleep both naps and nighttime. He is full of wind and grunts and squirms from about 3am. OH has very nicely been put on night by his work place (NHS) so I feel like I’ve not slept in 2 weeks.

im not really hoping to achieve much with this post I just need to vent as I have no one I can speak to really. I just feel like I’m failing LB and I’ve no idea what to do!

6 weeks is the peak of crying so it'll only get better from next week onwards! Don't be too hard on yourself and remind yourself this is just a phase that will pass.

Also out of interest, did your LG's hernia sort itself? My little one has one and it's pretty massive, don't know if it'll go back in!

Consider having him assessed for a tongue tie - certainly not the only cause/contributing factor for unsettledness but if it's similar to the experiences you had with your daughter, there could be a link (ties are thought to have a genetic link).

Cranial massage for babies can work wonders if they are constantly crying and miserable.

@Lovely27 yes I have read that. I keep telling myself it’s just a phase. I think because I’d convinced myself we had all the ‘bad’ luck with LG we’d escape it so to speak this time around wishful thinking I suppose.

with regards to her hernia she’s not 2yr 2 months and it’s not as big as it was but still visibly there. I’ve been told that if it hasn’t resolved by around 3 to take her bk to the drs and she may need a little op to stitch it shut.

@Ankerdam I have thought about tongue tie just today infact as he does click on the bottle and I’m assuming that’s where a lot of his gas/trapped wind come from. Tried 3 different bottles. I think possibly a lip tie if anything. I have heard that it’s really hard to get this diagnosed or a referral made for assessment. A lot of people has suggested going private but that is just not something we could afford on maternity leave. From looking it is around £300 private.

@MrsMous Have looked into this also. Will speak with OH about maybe giving it a go.