11 month old tantrums!?

[AmberM2022]

So my LB is 1 in about 3 weeks - and in the last 2 weeks he has started having the most horrific tantrums. Like i have been around babies all my life and never seen anything like it from a baby so young!! He screams and screams to the point he has no voice and is sick, most of the time he purposely makes himself sick, he throws himself on the floor to bang his head, or bangs it on walls. He has also smacked me twice this week on purpose. He does go to nursery so i thought that could be it copying other kids? But he’s been going nearly 3 months now.
He only has done it for me and his dad so far and nursery said he’s fine there, does have a few meltdowns but nothing like he does at home!
Sometimes it’s so bad it actually scares me like he gets himself that worked up. I just don’t know what to do? I try speak calmly, i have tried telling him off, i say no when he smacks himself on the floor. All this starts over nothing like i could be making tea and he’s pulling at my legs to pick up but i can’t so then it starts.
Angone else ever had this?? When i google it says he’s too young for tantrums really but this is certainly the start!!

Yes mine started tantruming before one year though they were few and far between and nothing like the full blown tantrums she has at 2. No one believed me when I did she was tantruming at 10 months until they witnessed it for themselves.

She seemed to advance quickly in language understanding but not in verbal speech which is why I think she started tantruming a little earlier than other kids. She just picked up English really quickly. We could ask her really complex questions and she would get it very quickly and even perform tasks as requested. She could follow instructions will as long as they were age appropriate.

But she was frustrated that she couldn't talk back and express herself.

Could this be the case with yours?

@FairyLover90 Oh really! that’s interesting to know, yes people are the same with me saying oh it can’t be a tantrum - and it defo is!
But just thinking about what you said could be part of it, he is very clever if he’s in another room i can tell him to ‘go get your ball’ and he will go into the living room pick up his ball and bring it to me, if i tell him to take his dummy out and give it to mummy - he does. So i suppose he does understand quite a lot for his age when i think about it but can’t speak! Thank you for making me feel better that i’m not the only one!

Yes that sounds about right. She would occasionally tantrum if she was trying to perform a task that she didn't have the correct level of motor skills for yet too. For instance trying to put the triangle shape into the triangle hole but she couldn't twist her wrist with the skill required ect. She would get super mad and lose it! 😂 In the end we had to take that toy away and we gave it back when she was a little older. Lol!!!

In a way it's both a blessing and a curse because from my perspective tantrums are a sign that they are advancing and reaching higher skills really quickly and they have the ambition to strive to push their limits, but some of their other skills need time to catch up.

So it's probably just a case that your kiddo is a smarty pants but needs a little help pacing himself and managing his frustration. Songs for littles on YouTube helped mine a lot. We also narrate to her like a sports broadcaster. "I'm going to change your diaper." Or "I'm making you some cereal for breakfast." it helps a lot with speech frustration. 😊

As for motor skills, if their issue is motor skills then you might need to take the time to show them how to perform said task or distract them or give them a more age appropriate task to do.

@AmberM2022 my DS is the same. He's nearly 14 months now but they started around his first birthday and it was hellish for a few weeks. He learnt very quickly to only throw himself backwards on soft surfaces though lol so now when he tantrums in the kitchen he just pretends to throw himself backwards then catches himself 😂

He's calmed down a bit now but still gets very frustrated. He sounds very similar to your DS, follows instructions and absolutely knows what we're saying but can't communicate how he wants to. No tantrums at nursery either. Definitely gets frustrated when he can't do things like putting lids on cups etc. Distraction is key for us. But I feel your pain, it can be really exhausting when you feel like you're spending your day moving from one tantrum to the next! Hopefully it eases for you little boy soon