Should I intervene in feiendship

[Cakesandtoffee]

DS 4 has just started reception. He is in a class with his best friend which I thought was great however the friend also has a best friend in a different class. During outside time my DS says he is left out as his friend plays with the other boy and it makes him sad. I've observed this recently at a birthday party and it's heartbreaking to see DS calling his friend and being ignored while the two boys run away from him.
I saw it happen again at pick up.
I've encouraged DS to speak to other boys in the class but wondering if I should contact the teacher to ask her to encourage new friendships, i.e putting DS beside another child for lunch and play etc or just let it ride out. I don't want him to miss out on the friendships now at the start of the school year when everyone is new and doesn't know each other. Will the teacher be open to encouraging this or will I seem like a meddling mum?

Should say Friendship

I'd probably wait for the first parent's evening and mention it then if it's still bothering you. These things do work themselves out. My dd was put in one class and her 4 friends were put in another, together and I was very upset about it all. Within a couple of months she could barely recall that she'd been split from the others and today doesn't always even recognise them if we pass them! Children are resilient things!

I would mention it briefly to the teacher, not in an "I'm so upset way" but just in a "Ive observed and could you encourage" way. In a few weeks I'm sure he will have lots of new friends!

I would speak to the teacher, again not in a 'this is a problem' way but in a 'can you help DS develop more friendships ' way.

I had to do this for DD in yr1 when her nominal best friend didn't want to be her friend any more. The other little girl wasn't in the wrong as such but I thought it would do DD some good if she developed new friendships.

Thanks I sent a short message to the teacher advising asking if she could encourage DS with exploring more friendships in the classroom and we're going to have a quick chat at collection time tomorrow, feel a bit better that I've flagged it up to her