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f*ck what a sh*t parent I am!!!!

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FAQ · 03/03/2008 19:17

Just posted this in weaning

've been doing BLW/spoonfeeding "normal" (ie not mashed or pureed) food with DS3 who's now 9 months.

H convinced this method doesn't work so last night he decided to puree his dinner for him - and he ate it. I decided tonight as a trial to puree his dinner and see what happens (figured that as he's teething - first tooth appeared today and I don't think the one next to it is far behind -that he may be more comfortable with it).

OMG what a disaster. First spoon -ok. 2nd spoon opened wide ok and took it no problems, but then he gagged, then he appeared to be choking, then he starts crying and gagging looking like he wants to be sick but can't. He's now on my knee screaming after having vomitted up lots of phlegm and what little dinner I did get down hm. Think if I'd given him a bottle in the last hour or so that would have come up too........

ARGHHH - no more pureeing or mashing for me - if it works for H - fine he can do it but I'm not going anywhere near that blender again when it comes to DS3's food.

Now here's the update and I feel like sh*t

Gave him a quick bath. Usually even a tired, hungry, grumpy DS3 will cheer up for a bath - but he was having none of it. Continuing to cry/scream/cough/gag/heave like he was going to throw up etc throughout.

Took him back to the living room to get him dressed. Got his nappy and vest on and picked him up to give him (another) hug to try and calm him down, more coughing and heaving and bringing up lots of phlegm on my shoulder......along with a tiny piece of shiny paper (purple to be precise). Just under 1cm square.....further investigation revealed that DS2 had brought his "crown" that he made at toddler group around Epiphany time downstairs and DS3 had obviously had hold of it and pulled a piece of the shiny metalic paper off and tried to eat it.....

Giving him the food obviously caused it to be shifted out of his mouth down his throat. So with myself for a) not seeing the blasted crown was downstairs and within his reach (he's crawling now) and b) not noticing that at some point between 4.15 and 6.15 he had a piece of purple metalic paper in his mouth.

Can't help but think how awful it could have been if it had got "stuck" over his windpipe

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posieflump · 03/03/2008 19:18

It could have happened to anyone
Don't beat your self up about it
Have a nice drink or chocolate or whatever comforts you and remember, tomorrow is another day

scorpio1 · 03/03/2008 19:19

FAQ - i have already told you what i think about your H and weaning...

And how are you supposed to know where every bit of purple paper is?? DS2 has eaten all sorts in his life but no worries, it happens and he is ok.

You are not a shit parent. Don't doubt your parenting abilities because of whatever other shit you are being put under.

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FAQ · 03/03/2008 19:22

But this has nothing to do with H - it's got to do with me not noticing that a toy which DS2 (and 1) have been told NOT to bring downstairs was brought down, and not noticing that he had the piece of paper in his mouth -

tbh the "food" side of it is now irrelevant as I would probably have spoon fed him his dinner in "normal" form and the same thing would have happened......

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colditz · 03/03/2008 19:25

Isn't this one of those things that happens to all parents with more than one child?

scorpio1 · 03/03/2008 19:26

it happens, FAQ it doesnt really happen with first babies, but all the time with second and subsequent!

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FAQ · 03/03/2008 19:28

never happened with DS2.......he just used to choke on his own saliva and throw up the entire contents of his stomach - whether it was milk or food.....

He's since had a bottle of milk and is now in bed sound asleep 50 minutes early (which means an early start for me in the morning).

Think this calls for another test of my new Dyson to make sure there's nothing on the floor that I can't see for looking and which he could repeat the performance with tomrrow

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rantinghousewife · 03/03/2008 19:28

But it didn't stick in his windpipe, did it. He's ok, if a bit icky and you're not. If I could remember half of the disastrous things that I've done as a parent you'd probably be ashen with disbelief. And wonder how ds ever made it to the age of 14.

Buda · 03/03/2008 19:30

Oh FAQ - we have all go a "shit parent" moment. It is what being a good parent is about!

liath · 03/03/2008 19:31

Been there done that, was trying to shovel yoghurt into ds, he was gagging then when I eventually checked his mouth I found a wad of tissue paper . It's so hard when there are older kids leaving stuff around, try not to beat yourself up!!

liath · 03/03/2008 19:33

And to make matters worse as I was typing that dd has been carefully glueing her own bottom - AAAARRRGGGHHH!!!!!

fordfiesta · 03/03/2008 19:34

ds poo'd xmas paper galore when he was 9 months!
Stuck his hand in a hot cup of coffee at 11 months (a bit of a teach your child the meaning of hot lesson, that went a bit far).
And fell of a bed in ikea head first at 18 months
......... the list goes on! Your not a sh*t mum, just normal!

OneHandedTypist · 03/03/2008 19:35

Most people dont know what weird things dc have eaten until it appears in baby's nappy. I'm sure there's a mn thread on this.

silverfrog · 03/03/2008 19:41

God, I couldn't even begin to list the stuff that dd2 (just turned 1) has eaten on her travels..

suffice to say that she has discovered that the floor is rich pickings, and put two and two together and started deliberately dropping her cereal at breakfast so that she can have a snack later when she feels like it

to admit it, but it is often there later when she goes off hunting - think I could have done with signing up for the dyson trial

rantinghousewife · 03/03/2008 19:42

OHT, that reminds me of a friend of mine who had to deal with several glittery nappies.

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FAQ · 03/03/2008 19:43

Thanks everyone .

just felt so horrible about it - I mean it's not exactly small this stupid crown (which is now back up in their bedroom with the warning that if it EVER appears downstairs again I'll throw it in the bin) and it was very bright, sparkly bit of paper (well it wasn't even "paper" it was like thick metalic wrapping paper, in a tiny square).

Oddly I'm not at all concerned that when at a friends house this afternoon he proceed to crawl around her rug and pick up every last crumb of pringles that her DD4 had dropped just before we arrived

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rantinghousewife · 03/03/2008 19:48

The ONE time I didn't do the walk downstairs in front of ds, when he was a toddler, he fell down them, and there was blood EVERYWHERE. He still has the scar!

potoroo · 03/03/2008 19:55

DS climbed onto my back and hit me the other night, and I was determined not to get cross so I calmly picked him up and put him in his room and closed the stair gate and walked back to the bathroom feeling proud for not losing my rag... then realised I had left 5 month DD in the bath. OMG. It took me about 5 minutes to calm down then. I was shaking. (She was fine).

Then I drove home with DD buckled in her capsule but the capsule was not buckled into the seatbelt.

shelleylou · 03/03/2008 21:10

FAQ i wouldnt worry to much about it. My ds decided 2 chew through a bottle of dettol (was in zipped up changing bag) and i didnt notice till he had actually chewed through it. Its not possible to keep you eye on dc every second of the day.

mimsum · 03/03/2008 21:48

honestly purple paper (however shiny) is nothing

before dd's first birthday she'd eaten a snail and sheep poo (she's a third child ...) and not only survived but thrived ...

hope you're feeling calmer now

HairyToe · 03/03/2008 21:53

I called an ambulance for DD2 when she choked on a small metallic star from one of DD1's 'masterpieces'. I didn't know that's what it was till she vomited it up just before the paramedics arrived.

Ledodgy · 03/03/2008 21:53

Don't worry about it! I find all sorts in ds1's nappy, bits of wetwipe, pieces of magazines, tinsel at Christmas. He's my second child god knows what i'll find in ds2's nappies when he's older.

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notnowbernard · 03/03/2008 21:59

Ballast nappies

DD2 went through a phase of eating large quantities of sand last year

Honestly, you could have built a wall with them!

Eeek · 03/03/2008 22:00

mine used to lick the walls in public toilets. Try ignoring that

rantinghousewife · 03/03/2008 22:02

NNB, presumably you mean with the contents of his nappies