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Am I being silly

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kbaby · 15/12/2004 20:53

Over the past 10 years ive seen many fortune tellers, all of them said that I would have twin boys or boys very close together. Only 1 said that I would have twin boys and then a girl. I was very surprised when I had DD. The thing is because they all said boys I feel that I wont have dd for very long. I am petrified that something is going to happen to her. Its made worse that she is such a contented easy going baby, where ever we go people stop and say how gorgeous she is. This has only added to me feeling the above. I think that the reason she is so wonderful is because shes not going to be here long.
Tonight I read a story about a mum whose 1 yr old died overnight on xmas day. It got me very upset and started me thinking these silly thoughts again. I know that fortune tellers mostly tell rubbish but because they have all said it I think there must be some element of truth in it. I cant help feeling that dd wont be here and then I feel so bad and down because I cant imagine how I would feel if that ever were to happen.

Am I normal to be thinking this?

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xmashampermunker · 15/12/2004 20:58

KBaby, stop going to fortune tellers and enjoy your baby girl hun. It's not silly to have these thoughts, but it is silly to let them spoil your life. Just think, if these fortune tellers were telling the truth, they'd have predicted what you fear.

As they didn't, nor did they tell you you were having a DD, I'd say that they were talking a load of old tosh.

spacedonkey · 15/12/2004 21:00

I don't know how old dd is, but I think it is quite normal, especially when they are tiny, to be anxious and have thoughts like that. Honestly, you really shouldn't take any notice of what fortune tellers say though kbaby ... I know that's probably no help at all, but I'm sorry you are suffering, and hope you find a way to stop worrying and enjoy your little girl x

rickman · 15/12/2004 21:01

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EbenyZebraScrooge · 15/12/2004 21:05

Don't think I've ever had my fortune told... but I think my eldest was nearly 2yo before he felt like a "permanent" fixture in my life. You can still so vividly remember before your child was born, it's easy to think their presence in your life might just be temporary. Your fears are not reality, though, you know? Just because you can think of the possibility doesn't make it likely.

OhComeLetUsADiorHim · 15/12/2004 21:06

I went to see a medium once who told me I would meet another man the following October, and if I went off with him, I'd be ecstatically happy. If I stayed with dh, I'd be OK, but not really happy. Great news? Well, I'd only just got married to dh 4 months before, and had only gone to see her for reassurance as I was massively depressed. Cue streams of tears, and then, surprise surprise, no new man in October.

Try to think of it as all a load of balls, and don't let it affect your life. I would love to believe that these people are genuine, but I seriously doubt it. Anything can happen in life, so try not to let it prey on your mind.

prufRockingAroundtheXmasTree · 15/12/2004 21:06

There isn't a shred of truth in what fortune tellers say.
But it is normal to have irrational fears - every time I walk into my bedroom I feel that I'm going to drop ds over the banister rail. And it would be sad if you could really imagine how awfulyou would feel if you lost dd, but you are not going to, so stop trying.

rickman · 15/12/2004 21:14

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TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 15/12/2004 21:21

kbaby your hormone are playing silly buggers with you

fortune tellers are 90% con artists

but even if you really believe in them think it through ..when they say you are going to have particular children then that's the children you give birth to .. it has nothing to do with how long they live ... your child will always be your child

you have a DD, you will always have had a DD .. she is your baby, your child

the fortune tellers have already been proved wrong

And if it helps my DD is the most contented, placid easy-going baby .. and so was DS .. he however is now a typical rambunctious almost 4 year old .. the easy-goingness only lasted till he was 3

Carla · 15/12/2004 21:22

IMHO, stop going to see them. And agree with xmashamper... load of old tosh. Why do you want to see them? Think sometimes it's nice to know what's not going to happen. The thought of the rest of my life with dh would see me in the funny farm

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