AIBU to not put my ex on our baby's birth certificate

[ariel27]

Just that exactly.

My ex and I split up when I was 6 month's pregnant. He was a pathological liar and he also cheated on me twice (that I know off)
He just lied constantly even when he didn't need to.
When we met I fell pregnant within 5 months and he painted himself out to be something he wasn't. Slowly but surely I found him out
He moved back in with his mum and dad.
His mum is one of they ones who her son can't do any wrong. She treats him like a baby and it shows. She absolutely can't stand me because quite frankly I don't take her crap.

Forward to now. Baby girl is 9 months and she goes to her gran and grandads every second weekend and obviously spends time with her dad whilst there.

When I registered the birth I didn't put her dad on the birth certificate as I didn't have any contact with any of them. I blocked them all because all I got was abuse.

Exs mum has been asking me to put daughters dad on the birth certificate as it's both there right. Which I agree with but I don't trust them in a sense that they will give me my baby back.

They are very cunning people and exs mum is the type to play the long game if that makes sense.

It's come back to me through the grape vine that my ex has been saying once he gets his name on baby's certificate he will be taking her from me.

When daughter goes there every second weekend it's pretty mum exs mum and dad who look after her. Her dad isn't even capable of putting a nappy on properly.

Can anyone give me some advice on if I'm being unreasonable or not?

I wouldn’t do it. If he wants to force the issue he could demand a DNA to be put on, it sounds like he won’t bother.

@DustyLee123 his mum has already told me if I don't make an appointment and put his name on the birth certificate then they will go into court to demand dna and have it done that way.

No absolutely not unreasonable.

I would refuse the dna test as well.

Why are you sending your child there every fortnight? These people will only seek to undermine your relationship with your DD and cause your child heartache in the process. They view you as the enemy and will never hold their son accountable for his actions.

No don’t do it. My DD did this, and now the oxygen thief has got PR.
Thank god my DGD is nearly 18.

Let them go to court. What's all the "they" anyway. He's the parent but seems to be outsourcing to his parents. Perhaps he isn't able to parent?

Or it's a relationship of less than a year that went wrong and the parents are trying to help it not be a complete shit show for the child.

Let him go to court. There is no 'them' don't let them bully you.

Let them take you to court, it’s likely an idle threat. If he put him on the birth certificate he automatically gains parental rights.

I’d stop contact. They sound hideous and as she gets old enough to understand what they’re saying they’ll spend every other weekend slagging you off to her. Is he paying support?

Sounds like a threat from the grandparents..and that they are pushing him because they want more contact time, or worse try and undermine you as unfit to get custody
I wouldn't do it.