To follow on from a previous tread - I'm not 100% sure who my Bio father is. (I'm 42 and we have been estranged since I was a small child - no real memories of him) Due to a upcoming wedding which will rise questions with my children, I need to speak to them about their 'step' granddad not being their bio grandad. (He raised me as his own and my children as his grandchild)
My initial reaction was to get DNA test done with assumed bio dad before I said anything to my child so that I could have a name for them. (2 other possibilities which I literally have no idea who they are of even if they are still alive)
As per advice from my last thread, I'm swaying towards not doing DNA test as if it turns out man who my mother was married to at 17 was not bio dad. It could open a huge can of worms.
Anyway basically my question is - how important is it that I know who bio father/grandfather is. They won't have any relationship with him anyway - 'bio' father very odd and doesn't get on with anyone - even his own brother etc.
Is medical history enough of a reason to open this van of worms? or should I definitely just leave it well alone
Only reason for telling kids now is that nanny & 'grandad' have decided to finally get married next month. However kids know nanny was already married but obviously assumed it was to 'grandad'
Thanks.