Hey all I’m looking for some advice regarding my partners ex and their children. We’ve been together 1.5 years, he has two children and I have three. Their breakup was very toxic and she is a narcissist. Shes mentally abusing the children by getting them to lie and she talks bad of both my partner, myself and my children.
A lot has happened since the beginning (breaking in to his house and attacking me with my son in my arms, posting awful things on my social media) and we are at a point now (we live together) that the children don’t want to come to ours because of the things their mum tells them.
His daughter and my son often bicker and tease each other but also love spending time together. Their mum has put it in to his daughters head that she isn’t safe with us because her and my son fight at times and one of them ends up hurt (she’s making out my son is dangerous) we deal with this appropriately and within 5 minutes they are the best of friends.
Their mum is suggesting we have the children when my children aren’t here (with their dad) and to keep them separate, she doesn’t want us together and I believe this is a tactic to break us. I don’t understand how this will work as we are a blended family and we love our children being together, we are happy. My partner mentioned only having his children one night instead of two to limit the time they spend together, however that isn’t fair on his children so I’ve suggested staying in a hotel the weekends he has his kids because if we don’t do something she will stop him having his children. What do we do, I feel absolutely awful about all of this