Fussy 9 week old - help

[testy1997]

Tell me it gets better? She is constantly low key fussing, doesn't want to sit and be held, is fine in the sling but then just spends all her day sleeping. Can't take her anywhere as she just cries if not feeding or sleeping me. Am losing the will right now. It's depressing. I feel like this isn't what newborn days should be like. I don't do anything g except walk as I'm so scared of her fussing. Does it get better???

It will get better but please do go out, even if it's for your own sanity. I started by going to playgroups where the other Mums will be more than used to babies fussing

This is exactly what newborn days are like, but it does get better, although there aren’t many babies of any age who will sit awake and tranquil in your lap while you sit. Keep her in the sling and go places. Walk until she’s asleep then stop for a coffee. Fussing isn’t the same as screaming, you are fine to be out with other people.

@ReadRum I just see all of these babies hanging out with their mums in coffee shops and I cannot. She tolerates her pram for 30 mins then irs full on screaming and I can't do anything. It just feels relentless and thankless right now

Would she be ok in company if you held her?

She is fine in the sling but then just spends all her day sleeping. Can't take her anywhere as she just cries if not feeding or sleeping me

This is what 9 week olds do. The newborn days are a total slog of feeding, naps and nappy changes. It’s a blessing that she likes the sling - just go out and do what you want to do with her asleep. Feed her out and about if you are staying out longer than a nap. I doubt you are seeing many 9 week olds hanging out in coffee shops. As a PP said it’s a very rare bread of newborn who can tolerate more than a few minutes awake just chilling in a parents arms. DC2 is 8 weeks and he can still only tolerate about 45-60 mins awake including a breastfeed and a nappy change. I’m out with him a lot due to DC1 and I spend 90% of my time breastfeeding, walking round with him on my shoulder or trying to get him to nap.

Honestly by 6 months old you’ll be scratching your head for things to do when she’s awake.