Want another baby. Am I losing my mind?

[Helena1993]

About a year ago I came here and moaned about how hard the newborn stage and baby stage are. I said I’m one and done. No way I’m having another one. Now she’s 16 months and the cutest m@-&:€!-@@-. She gives hugs and kisses and walks and omg I l o v e her. She makes me smile all day. There are tough times every now and then when she’s ill or just really annoyed.

Am I losing my mind? I miss feeding a newborn baby and all the cuddles. Don’t miss the lack of sleep though.

I just wanted to say that I could have written this post word for word, so you're not alone!

It's the opposite for me. Mine is 2 and I'm trying to talk my hubby into a vasectomy. 😂 But I don't think you're crazy. It sounds like you just really love your baby and you want them to have a sibling and that's fantastic! I was not very emotionally stable during the newborn phase and I was really sick during my pregnancy so even though I really loved how cute my baby was I couldn't stand repeating that. I felt remarkably useless and helpless. I went through a baby fever phase for a short bit but then realized I just liked the idea of having a second not the reality of it.

We've agreed to wait a couple of months on the vasectomy in case we change our mind. But after a recent pregnancy scare that feeling that this is the last one just gets stronger with every passing minute.

Aw yes I remember transitioning and screaming "I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE I'M TIRED." And telling myself I'll just take a nap and try again in the morning. Midwife checks cervix and I'm a ten. Time to push! Noooo!!! 😭😂

Babies are for life , not just for Xmas 😂. But seriously, less do you want another baby, and more do u want another family member? I am quite broody for newborn cuddles after two , but know in my heart that my family feels complete.

Right now I don’t want another baby. But maybe in a year or two. I can’t go through this super hard newborn stage again at the moment

Yes! I was screaming “I want to go home, we can try again tomorrow!” with my first. The midwife told me “no turning back now!” and I was very displeased. 😂

Hello you are me. I'm trying again and I don't know if I've lost the plot because I said NEVER....but my god I love her so much

I so agree with this! I absolutely love newborns and small babies but find small children hard work.. I'd keep going forever if they stayed babies

I can't be the only one who liked the baby phase? 😅 There were definitely tricky moments but I'd always wanted two and nothing about DC1's baby phase put me off.

Careful, my first was a breeze for the most part. Second is, quite frankly, a sociopath. Love her though, she gives zero fucks and is hilarious. I have no desire for a third at all thankfully but still enjoy a little snuggle from other people’s babies every now and then.

I wanted another baby by the time DS1 was 4mths old 🤭 he was a very chilled relaxed, contented baby, when DS2 arrived he was the totally opposite and the reason why a 3rd was off the cards!

I have dd 12 and ds 4, both were content babies and I loved pregnancy and the baby stage. Was really lucky to have short and good labour's with both, I'd love more kids but only if they stayed in the baby stages, im not a fan of this age where they answer back 🤣🤣

I'm the opposite, my little boy is 22 months and I am absolutely 1 million percent one and done! (Just to add I do adore him)

I remember not thinking much about labour whilst pregnant with DD2 until I was actually in it. Then I was screaming that I’d changed my mind and wanted to go back. Whilst her labour was more painful and a lot faster (a bit scarily so), I’d want that one again because DD1’s was long and it took months to feel right again. The gas and air with DD1 made me pass out too.

I’m pregnant with DC3 even though DD1 has turned into a sassy pre-teen and DD2 is a wild child! DH will be marched to get the snip after this though before any broodiness can hit me again.

I gave birth in 12 minutes. Apparently the delivery team was impressed.

Was also telling the midwives 'I don't feel like doing this today!'. I was really earnest and they were like 'Oh do you not?' while patronisingly smiling at eachother.

I'm so glad I'll never be in labour again!