anyone had a dc who sobs and won't go near potty?

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i think ds is far too young to start potty training - 20m. but mum nagged a bit , even says i should have started earlier, just to put him on there and see if he would use it , save on nappies etc
so i gave in and bought one last week , well he will pick it up, will push it away. but if i try to put him on it he cries and clings on to me fearfully. not a good start ,have tried a couple of times, sat on it myself once.

DS2 (age 2.5) did this if I tried to put him on to poo, although he would happily wee on it.

I just left him, put on a nappy if he needed to poo and then one day he just sat on it himself and produced!

Don't push in any way if he is reluctant. Just wait til the right time

I'd just leave it for a while - ds is 2.9 and thought potty was a good idea for about a week, then started crying and getting annoyed and refusing and finally just stopped pooing for a few days! So I let it go and I'm now waiting for him to decide he wants to - people have told me this is better and reduces accidents etc later on.

Far too young. Ignore your mother and put the potty away for a year. It'll go like dream then.

My ds would only poo in a nappy for ages, and was terrified of sitting on the loo (he learnt to pee standing up straight away from watching his dad. I just went along with it, and eventually he got over the fear. It's realy really not worth stressing about!

Doesn't matter how old they are, if the potty makes them scared and upset then it's time to put it away.

Relax. Don't force him into something he (a) can't do and (b) is scared of.

I agree with everyone who is saying to leave it. My ds did the same when we tried at around 24 months. Now at 28 months, he will come and ask to have his nappy changed and tells me when he is doing a pee/poop, but I still don't think he is ready.

The potty is there on the floor and he knows what it's for, but I will wait a few months yet until I try again, unless he specifically asks.

chuck the potties out

you wil lhave to go through it all again when trying to go potty - toilet

go straight t o toilet is my advice

thanks all, he has "told" us once or twice, which did surprise me at this age, mainly with a poo, sometimes he has pointed there, and other times he has gone to the door to the stairs.