Pregnancy with a toddler

[Floragucci]

DS is 21mo and I don’t know if this is a thing as he’s too young to fully get I’m pregnant/he’s getting a baby sister but can they sense you’re pregnant?

since I found out he has been so clingy and does not want to leave my side. He was around 16 months old when I found out and he’d been at nursery since 9mo

Since I got pregnant basically/found out he hasn’t wanted to go in, and used to be fine before this. He’s fine during the day but drop off makes me so sad now. He doesn’t want to go to other people when we visit grandparents etc

Which then the grandparents annoy me “oh you only want mummy” “oh someone’s being clingy” I mean he is so young still but I really feel he can sense the chain?

I have guilt about falling pregnant anyway as it wasn’t planned , I’d have ideally liked a larger age gap but this is lovely as DS and his sister will be so close. But I feel so sad that he’s so young and I’m worried about his sister coming along and how I’ll split myself

What will the age gap be Op? 22 months between mine and at the time I felt so much of what you’re describing! The last few months of my second pregnancy were actually quite taken up with guilt /worry about changing everything my first born ever knew! I felt like you too in that she seemed to know something was changing. Of course, it probably just coincided with a clingy phase or whatever but I do have a very sensitive first born so it made sense to me that she might know somehow that something was up! I will warn that I continued to feel emotional about the change a few weeks after my DS arrived. The feeling didn’t magically disappear on his birth, as lots of people told me it would. There will also of course be times when it’s upsetting that you can’t give DS what he wants from you, when he wants it - it’s the end of an era, no two ways about it! But it really does all settled down and you’ll see a beautiful side of your DS that you never even knew was there! In that sense you’re getting even close to him. So, just to say - I totally understand how you feel but, as with everything, it will pass. If you can get regular one on one time with the eldest after siblings birth, jump at it as it will do you both the world of good. Good luck!