Anyone else's child being difficult since reception start?

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DS 4 is normally ok to manage but for the last two weeks has been so difficult, really cheeky, sticking his tongue out when asked something saying 'i want.." no please or thank yous, always saying I'm a bad mum or he doesn't want me to play anymore etc. He started reception last week so I'm hoping it's just an adjusting phase. He's also asked to move class to be with a different friend despite being in class with his supposed best friend, he won't tell me if they've fallen out or what is happening and I don't know if I should ring the teacher to see if something is going on?

Totally normal

Dont worry. It will pass in a few weeks

And then it will come back

Beginning/ end of terms are challenging

Normal. huge adjustment and he will be so tired. Most children struggle with the demands of starting school.

He'll be shattered, totally normal. Then it gets better until the run up to Christmas where IME 50% of them are over emotional, over excited wrecks.

Following with interest. My DS starts on Thursday but since leaving nursery, going on holiday and then having a nanny (she's going to do after school once he starts but has been doing extra shifts now to cover the holiday), he's been a nightmare with me. Long tantrums, hitting and kicking me, deliberately having toilet accidents etc and he hasn't even started school yet!

DS started reception on Monday and has been a nightmare ever since, I can tell he’s tired and overwhelmed dispite having done 4 years full time in nursery before this. I think it’s normal, it’s a big change.

Thanks for the replies, glad I'm not the only one! We've had a better day today as my expectations are lower. We walked home from reception today and took our time chatting and think that helped plus just chilling in the garden this afternoon rather than going out

It makes no difference if they have been to nursery. There is suddenly a completely new system to get used to. New building, new teachers/ adults in the room, new children to interact with. They all vary but my son was shattered to start with. Each day he got more exhausted so Thursday and Friday were hard. Just trying to conform to all the new expectations wears them out. I remember my child had to do his own comment on his first school report. He wrote 'It is hard to play' It was all the extra worry not wanting to get in trouble for doing the wrong thing. I would definitely not plan any activities for after school for the first few weeks, just let them chill, particularly with the hot weather at the moment.