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Screaming at 1 year old

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Concernedperson2001 · 05/09/2023 10:51

My friend has a 1 year old who has tantrums, which to me is normal. She lives in a top floor flat, has wrist problems and there is no lift so she struggles to even get out the flat with her son. He cries for no reason sometimes, and where she’s frustrated she fully screams at him like “stop f*ck!ng crying and shut up already” to which he then screams and cries more, she’s even said about ending her life. Is the shouting something to be concerned about? It makes me feel sick when she phones and she’s in tears and suddenly starts screaming at him at the top of her lungs. She has no one to babysit him so she’s alone a lot. Please advise on what I can do, I live 3 hours away otherwise I’d help out.

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Bomba · 05/09/2023 10:59

You need to contact social services who can offer her some support.

ehupo7 · 05/09/2023 11:01

She sounds depressed and overwhelmed, does she have any support?

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Concernedperson2001 · 05/09/2023 11:01

She has had 4 different social workers who have all signed her off as her son is a healthy weight, no issues, and is mostly a happy child with good development.

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Concernedperson2001 · 05/09/2023 11:02

No. But when she’s offered support it’s not the support she wants. I wish I was there to help her. She hardly has any friends as she is always indoors with baby, and never has a chance to go and socialise.

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Bomba · 05/09/2023 15:43

Do those 4 social workers know that she screams and swears at him, claims to be suicidal and can't leave the flat?

Devilsmommy · 05/09/2023 15:54

Concernedperson2001 · 05/09/2023 11:02

No. But when she’s offered support it’s not the support she wants. I wish I was there to help her. She hardly has any friends as she is always indoors with baby, and never has a chance to go and socialise.

I've been stuck at home for the first year of my baby's life and as I felt like we both needed socialising I've booked in some baby/toddler classes so we are least get out and meet people. Is this something your friend could do?

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 05/09/2023 17:14

Definitely get her to get in touch with Homestart as mentioned above.

I'm surprised she's had 4 SW. That must ring alarm bells with SS.

I would get her to talk to MInd about her suicidal thoughts.

I'd also talk to the NSPCC about how your DF is screaming at her LO and how she's expressed intentions to end her life.

Could you help her to apply for more suitable accommodation?

Beachwaves127 · 05/09/2023 21:24

Can she get a sling? At least to carry Dc down the stairs and keep pram at foot of the stairs? Or not possible with her wrist?

If not try home start if there is one near by. They offer support at home.

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 05/09/2023 21:27

What problems does she have with her wrists and will they improve?

Beachwaves127 · 05/09/2023 22:35

Beachwaves127 · 05/09/2023 21:24

Can she get a sling? At least to carry Dc down the stairs and keep pram at foot of the stairs? Or not possible with her wrist?

If not try home start if there is one near by. They offer support at home.

The other option if she only has one hand is to use car seat to carry dc down (can carry my car seat one handed.) I’m assuming here she has one wrist ok. Again leave car seat at foot of stairs and put Dc in buggy. I’m trying to think of ways to get out the house. Getting myself to baby classes has saved my mental health and stopped Dc getting bored and it sounds like she needed this.

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