My daughters aged 6 and 8 (9 in a couple of weeks) have always been a very bickery/argumentative pair with eachother. They are fine with their friends, older one is an absolute angel with other kids and other younger children but not when it comes to her own sister.
I totally understand a certain level sister arguing and competitiveness etc but I feel mine are a bit more than the norm.
my 6 year old has recently asked me why they argue so much and when it started. She asked me if we have videos of when they don’t argue when they were younger, and when I asked her why she wants the videos she said so she can watch them and see how they can not argue. It absolutely shattered my heart because it means she’s clearly very upset by this.
having this long summer break together doesn’t help and they’ve been in each others pockets the whole time so I get it’s probably got too much for them.
but my older one doesn’t help. It’s always “it’s not fair”, “she did this”, “she said this” or when they’re playing together it always had to be the older ones way and the older ones say. It’s irritating to watch and hear her this way.
when I intervene to tell her that the way she’s behaving isn’t ok, she gets upset.
my younger one is no angel. She can also be annoying to her but she tends to be the one to find a solution or agreement but not because she wants to, just to diffuse the situation. And I guess she feels she’s had enough of being the one to be bossed around.
I need some help on how to teach them to behave nicer together and how do I make the older one be more caring towards her sister. She just genuinely doesn’t think twice about how her sister feels which isn’t nice.