Sorry this is long I could use a little advice for a young mum
I need so advice my daughter 4 is refusing to now see her father. Me and hun split when she was one. I’ve told him from day one you are welcome to come see her whenever you want just give a call and come over. For the past 2 years he’s been coming to see her once a month minimum and calling her rarely however since he got a girlfriend over a year ago he sees her less than before. And does call or FaceTime her anyone since he moved a hour way by bus.
From February he seen her 3 times over 7 seven months this is when I noticed her excitement of him coming started to die down. Has he would tell her he’s coming but then cancel.
In June it was her birthday and he had been promising a slide but when it came to her party he didn’t get her anything which made her visibly disappointed in him again but it made her feel worse because it was in front of family and friends. After her birthday he didn’t bother to contact her again til a month later in which he came over to spend some time together. After about 3 hours of playing which she loved as she got to play with him properly he had to leave because he’s girlfriend was waiting for him ( she heard him say this). That night I had never seen her like this where she was crying and screaming that she wanted her dad to stay and why can’t he live with us and how much she misses him to the point she was saying her heart is hurting because (and her words) she’s heartbroken. - this made me feel like the worse mum ever.
But since that night she is now refusing to see him as (in her words) she doesn’t want her heart to hurt, she’s okay with me. I don’t know what to do I do now when he’s asking to see her but when I tell her she refusing. I can’t force her to see him but then what else can I do other then keep asking her til she changes her mind ( I’ve been asking for over over two months now and she still refuses).